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How to Fuck A Girl Properly: 7 Things Women Want in Bed

This is easily the best article I’ve ever read on how to fuck a girl.

It was written by a girl I’m dating, for the men of this blog, to help them understand what women want in bed.

If you want to know how to fuck women properly, and what they want in bed, then this post is a must read for you…


How to Fuck A Girl Properly

Look… I understand that you men have it hard. Women are notoriously difficult to please.

We’re fickle, emotional, and can change our mind on the turn of a dime.

On top of things, female privilege has made it even harder for men. You guys don’t always know how to act, or what to do.

Holding open the door for one girl could get you her appreciation, and holding it open for the next could get you yelled at.

We live in strange times indeed.

But when it comes down to it… when it comes down to fucking, all women really want the same things in bed.

You can read The Sex God Method to see understand why.

Believe me, we do. It doesn’t matter what you’ve heard from your buddies, because I hear these things from my female friends on a day-by-day basis.

It’s always the same. Damn. Thing. Guys don’t know how to fuck a girl right.

So for the love of God…for your sake, for your girlfriend’s sake, and for your marriage’s sake, please listen up. Okay?

Here’s some tips on how to fuck a girl properly.

1. Be Rough

I know you might find this hard to believe… but us girls do like getting fucked rough sometimes.

Sure, there’s a time to be really sweet, and make slow, passionate sex.

…but, there’s also a time to fuck our brains out and put us in our place.

You’ll have to determine which time is which.

Have you ever wondered why EVERY single romance novel women read, and especially the best-selling ones, are almost ALWAYS about a strong, confident?

Have you ever wondered why girls ALWAYS want a man who knows how to be an alpha male, and isn’t a whiny little bitch?

You don’t see any bitchy soy boys in “50 Shades of Grey” or “Love Drunk Cowboy,” for a reason.

As much as you see it encouraged in the media, women HATE weak men. Weak men don’t know how to fuck a girl properly.

We’ll never admit it to you, because it’s not our job to teach you how to be men…

…but when a guy can fuck you hard in the bedroom, we instinctively know he’s a man.

We fall in line.

2. Take Charge

While there may be some women who will disagree, most of us want the man to take charge… even if we SAY we don’t, it’s still a shit test.

No, it isn’t “sweet” when you ask us if you can “proceed” like some scared little boy.

Just take what you want, and do it unapologetically.

Obviously don’t be an idiot. If we back up or seem hesitant, please do ask if something’s wrong. Learn to read our IOI’s for God’s sake.

But most of the time, when you just take charge in the bedroom, it’s a HUGE turn on.

Again, we don’t want some little boy who we need to TEACH how to be a man.

Grow a pair and start taking charge, in the bedroom and in your relationship.

You’re the man. Act like it.

3. Learn How to Fuck A Girl WELL

“Y-you mean I can fuck you like a porn star?”


Believe it or not, women do like to be fucked…and fucked hard.

Again, why do you think the best-selling romance novel (it’s basically porn) is “50 Shades of Grey?”

A book about a billionaire alpha male who ties a young employee up, spanks her, throat fucks her, and pounds her pussy until she can’t walk straight?

Because it makes us wet. This is female hypergamy at work.


But women like getting fucked hard. So start doing it. Learn how to fuck a girl well, and she will love you forever.

BUT, there’s nothing more unattractive than a man who can’t last long, and blows his load after three gentle thrusts.

4. Make Some Noise

There’s nothing more awkward than silent sex.

Am I doing a good job? Does my pussy feel good to you? I can never tell if you’re just dead silent.

It’s also a HUGE turnoff, too. Girls don’t want you to be a ninja, guys—we want to hear everything.

Grunt. Moan. Talk dirty. Tell us how much of a dirty whore we’ve been, and that you’re going to teach us a lesson tonight.

When you embody your masculine energy, it puts us in our feminine… and masculine energy is dominant, plain and simple.

Again… obviously not all girls will like this. But many do.

Start by spanking her lightly and gauge her response. If she seems to like it, continue forward.

Hearing a guy tell us that he’s going to cum is, without a doubt, one of the hottest things in the world. And that actually brings me to my next point…

5. We Like Your Cum

Okay, no, that doesn’t mean getting it all over our face (although that can be nice, sometimes).

It just means we like to hear you cum.

We like it when you tell us you’re going to cum inside of us.

We like it when you groan and grunt as you blow your load all over our ass.

We like it when you cum.

It’s called the “money shot” for a reason, sweetheart—it’s the best part.

So please, don’t hide it. Don’t be shy. Yell it to the whole world that you’re going to cum inside of us, and most of the time, we’ll like it.

In fact, you can double the size of your loads by taking soy lecithin, one of the best male enhancement supplements on the planet.

…but, even if you don’t cum as much as a porn star, the bottom line is that we love your cum. So please, emphasize it.

6. Know The Clit

If you want to know how to fuck a girl properly, then know the clit.

…because there’s more nerve endings in just the clit ALONE than in the entire male penis combined.

That’s a lot of pleasure.

There isn’t a “magic button” to turning her on, but if there was, it would be this…

Learn to respect the clit.

If you want to know how to get laid, and how to KEEP getting laid, then learn to give us great sex by playing with our clits.

Start by gently putting two fingers near the entrance to the vagina, and pressing your thumb on her clit for some light pressure.

Ask her if she likes it. Most girls will tell you what they want, because each clit is different.

Some girls like a lot of pressure. Some girls like a little bit of pressure.

Some girls like it to be rubbed, and others just like it to be pressed down on.

But one thing is for certain: don’t ignore the clit.

7. Lots of Foreplay

This is something a lot of guys don’t understand. Most guys don’t ever start understanding women, and this is so key.

For women, sex is psychological. It takes us a while to get warmed up.

But once we get warmed up… we’re like a raging fire.

Men are ready to go at the drop of the hat.

But women? We take time.

For us, it isn’t even the sex, but the BUILDUP that makes it so good. Tease us, and talk about things that get our imagination working.

Tell us what you’re going to do to us…

Tell us what you want us to do to you…

Kiss us, grab us, play with us…

…until we’re so wet that we’re tearing your pants off and begging you to fuck us.

How to Fuck A Girl Properly (Summary)

The One Thing Every Woman Wants In Bed (But Won’t Ask For)…

It’s a man who can take control.

Seriously, most guys don’t know this, but what women really care about is NOT the size of your package…

A much bigger turn-on, is when a man can take control in the bedroom.

(Personally, nothing makes me wetter than thinking about Jon, who does this better than any guy I’ve ever met… *mmmm*)

And you know… I’ve slept with guys who were maybe a little taller, richer, or better looking… but none of them knew how to be dominant in bed…

Or how to take control…

Or how to throw me around and bark orders at me.

And it really just ruined the experience for me, and made it difficult for me to enjoy it all.

Men, listen up… in order to fuck a woman well, in a way that makes her EXCITED to bang you again & again… you’ve gotta be able to be dominant in the bed room.

And that means doing everything in your power to learn about how to be an alpha male, so you can get make her cum whenever you want… and keep her addicted to your d*ck so she doesn’t go fuck another guy.

And there’s a really easy way to unleash your inner alpha male, using 7 simple strategies and exercises that you can do in minutes.

Frequently Asked Questions

❓ What Do Girls Want in Bed?

Above all else, women want a dominant man who knows how to fuck them right. They want a man who can take charge in the bedroom, make them squirt, and give them incredible orgasms.

❓ Do Women Like to Fuck?

Absolutely. All women love to fuck, IF you know how to fuck a girl properly. If you don’t, then she’s not going to want to sleep with you, but if you can give her great sex, she’ll come back for more and more.

❓ Do Women Like Being Dominated in Bed?

Usually, yes. All women are different, but according to science, most women admit that they enjoy being dominated by an alpha male in the bedroom. Just think of 50 Shades of Gray. There’s a reason why it sold so well!

❓ Tips to Have Better Sex

Try pulling your woman’s hair the next time you fuck her. Try spanking her, talking dirty, and potentially engaging in some role play. Learning how to fuck a girl depends on the specific girl you’re with, but in general, many women like it rough.

Female Psychology: Understanding Why Women Are So Damn Difficult

Let’s face it – the sexes balance each other out. For example: men make money, and women make babies.

*ducks as bullets come flying*

Ok, now that the jokes are aside, we can get to the heart of the matter…

The fact is, there’s a biological imperative to balance estrogen and testosterone… or as Osho might say, the masculine and feminine polarity.

However you slice it, gender balance matters. When birth ratios exceed the historically average 1.6 males per 1 female, shit gets whack. Violent crime increases, rape and prostitution abounds, and wars are started.

China and India – the former with it’s one-child policy, and the latter with its dowries – have already felt the pinch of under-feminization.

Crime rates have doubled in China in the last twenty years and female suicide rates are the highest in the world – quite possibly a consequence of how many baby girls are aborted.

Heavy stuff. Keep it in mind the next time your woman is giving you a hard time.


Let’s face it – it’s neither pleasant nor very dignifying when your woman is giving you shit. Yet it’s in this little corner of female psychology that us men can find the best of ourselves.

There are a lot of ways to describe it – getting shit, getting bitched at, getting a hard time… but around these parts we’ve got a catch-all phrase to describe this behavior: a test.

I picked up this term from David Deida, and if you’ve seen our premium training course, Unbreakable, you know that we see it as a fundamental part of male:female relationships.

Simply stated, your woman is going to test you. It’s part of her relationship role and embedded within her female psychology.

If you’re the strong guy that I want you to be, then you’re going to know how to pass the test with flying colors. And if you’re the good guy I hope you to be, then you’ll make lemonade of lemons, and use these tests to make your relationship better.

So, other than “when a girl bitches at me,” what constitutes a test, and how do we handle them?

Female Psychology: Tests of Insecurity

This unfortunate quirk of female psychology arises out a woman’s own insecurities. They come in the form of “tell me you love me,” “do you think she’s prettier than me?” and “who were you out flirting with tonight?”

In some cases, they’re entirely reasonable. As I’ve learned firsthand, attending a bachelor party, in Rio, during Carnival, is enough to rattle even the most confident of girlfriends. A little reassurance and some FaceTime’ing is totally reasonable.


But, if you’re dating a girl whose insecurities begin to impose on your own happiness, well-being, and relationships with others, appeasement will gain you temporary reprieve, and not much more.

That’s because Tests of Insecurity are all about sucking you in – her insecurities create a negative emotional vortex, of sorts, that can only be filled by you. Or the next man who’ll tell her what she wants to hear.

And that’s the most damaging thing about insecurities, and specifically, about failing this test. A woman with low self-esteem will always be looking for the next thing to make her feel better about herself. Maybe a gift, maybe a trip, maybe the attention of another man.

You know when you’re being given one of these tests, because you feel an unmistakable combination of pity and frustration towards her. You feel like she’s sucking you in. And the only way to pass this test is to gently but unfailingly refuse to let it consume you.

You have to set your boundaries. If you really love her, the line is a big fat one, and you let her cross it a few times. Maybe you take the long view, and “work on it” with her – depends on how much drama you like in your life.

But make no mistake: the only way that your girl is going to stop giving you tests of insecurity is through her own growth.

Female Psychology: Tests of Strength

On the flip side, you have tests of strength: “Come back with your shield, or on it,” spoke Queen Gorgo in the man-epic 300.

I sometimes think of these as Mom Tests. You want to be lazy, step down, or run and hide. Mom’s not having any of it. “Don’t take that from bullies… you go back to school and punch him back!”

“A C+ on your test? That’s it – you’re grounded this weekend, and you’re studying twice as hard next time.” “Putting the toys under your bed doesn’t count as cleaning up – I want them where they belong.”

They were bad enough when you were a kid, but they’re downright emasculating when you’re getting them from your girlfriend. You want to tell her to shut up, that it’s none of her business. You get mad at her for your own retreat and weakness.

And that’s how you know it’s a Test of Strength – it feels like a push… usually “out there” into the world. Towards something, or against someone. She’s trying to light a fire under your ass and give you the oomph you didn’t have on your own.

Why? Because she loves you. And the man who she fell in love with isn’t lazy. He doesn’t come home from work with his head hung low. He doesn’t put up with shit from others.

But somehow, he’s failing. It could be mere forgetfulness, or it could be outright defeat. He’s lost his fire… his drive… his “primary value,” as we call it on in our premium training course, Unbreakable.


There are two ways to pass these tests. The first is to accept and reflect upon your woman’s words, seeing in yourself the man who she expects you to be.

It seems emasculating at first… “to hell with this, I make my own choices, I don’t need her telling me what to be.” But if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll admit that that’s just your ego getting defensive.

It’s happy in its state of safety and inertia, and it doesn’t want to get out there on the edge.

So while you may think that fighting with her is “winning,” it’s not.

It’s wearing her down, and if you have enough of those fights, she may just realize one day that you’re not, in fact, the man who she imagined you to be. That’s when you realize just how much you’ve lost.

But maybe it doesn’t get to that point. In fact, maybe you pass these tests… just by being you. Because you push yourself daily… because you’re already at your edge… because you’ve got fire and you breath it.

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Why Women Lose Interest — It’s Two Things

Aug 4, 2019 · 6 min read Photo by Jordan Whitfield on Unsplash

When I first started dating, I believed attraction was an art. A beautiful mosaic that two people painted together, each with their unique brush strokes and favorite hues. I still believe this to some degree. It’s two intricate, complex humans coming together to create something equally intricate and complex.

This view of attraction as art suited me in the early years. I was never much of a math/science person. I naturally gravitated towards the humanities and would run rapidly from anything that required small numbers in even tinier boxes (hello, excel!).

But as I started dating more and reflecting on those experiences, I came to a critical realization: there are more patterns in attraction than I originally realized. If I did certain things, the guy would disappear, guaranteed. If I did other things, the guy would chase me, hard. The inverse was also true. If a guy did certain things, I would be very interested. If he did other things, I would Check please! quicker than a Scaramucci. There’s a level of predictability to interest, which, in turn, challenged my original hypothesis. Attraction is just as much science as it is art, maybe even more so.

Before I dive in to what I learned, I’m offering a soft disclaimer. I haven’t been appointed official Spokesperson for Womankind (I mean… but how cool would that job be?), so what I’m saying might not apply to all women. But I *can* speak for myself and what keeps me interested. And I’ve floated this by many of my female friends and they all say I’ve hit the mark. So, there’s that.

Here is what I’ve noticed. The two things that keep women interested.

Women stay interested when their partner is fascinated and fascinating.

Have one without the other (or neither) and a woman will lose interest. Let’s unpack this.

He is fascinated.

When a woman feels she is the object of her partner’s fascination, she will stay interested. What does this look like?

  • He pursues her. This is often where women lose interest, particularly in the early stages of dating. Men: woo her. Never stop wooing her. This means picking up the phone and calling instead of endless texting. This means reaching out regularly. I once heard a guy friend say ‘if a man goes 48 hours without contacting you, he’s not interested.’ It’s true, and a woman feels it. If a women is left wondering how you feel about her as a result of your absence, she will lose interest fast. To hold her interest, the rules of courtship apply: flowers just because, opening of doors, arriving on time, all manner of gentlemanly behavior, and most importantly, regular contact. If you had a great date, tell her. This is less pep talk, more observation: fascinated men can barely hold themselves back from reaching out and not soon enough. Speaking personally, if a man doesn’t call me 24 hours after a date, I start to lose interest.
  • He is curious about her. He wants to know what makes her tick. He would rather ask her questions than talk about himself. Because how else will he get to know what moves her, what angers her, what makes her cry? (It’s Toy Story 3 btw). And not questions like where she works & lives, but questions that get to the heart of how she sees the world. When a man doesn’t ask these types of questions (or any at all), women lose interest.
  • He wants to please her. He wants to know how to exceed expectations. I was once on a date where a man asked me “How often do you prefer being communicated with and in what way?” Subtext: I really like you and I want to hit a home run. This was awesome & very hot. When a man is fascinated with a woman, he will continually position himself to surpass all potential competition. If a man’s not trying to find out what pleases her (I use ‘trying’ loosely because for a fascinated man, it’s a delight and not work), women lose interest.
  • He desires her. He tells her he wants her. He never stops telling her. He gets specific about how he desires her. Trust me men, this will keep her interested. Long, long time.
  • He is taken with her. He is captivated. Even the trivial things are attractive because it is her that’s doing them. She could be walking around the house in yoga pants, but to him it’s Look at that amazing woman wearing those cute black pants. There’s a verse in Song of Solomon that encapsulates this: “Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.” His lady: flower. Every other woman: thorns. No one compares to her. Not a single one.
  • …He tells her so. It’s not just that he’s taken with her, he communicates it. Speaking personally: when a man is liberal with how he feels about me, my heart melts and simultaneously becomes magnetically attracted to his. His verbalized interest solidifies mine. Tell her you adore her. Tell her ‘when you do x, it makes me feel like superman.’ Verbalize all those wonderful things you’re thinking about her. If you’re thinking/feeling it, and it’s complimentary, SAY IT. The results will be in your favor 😉

He is fascinating.

When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:

  • is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
  • has values and lives by them
  • has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
  • respects his body & takes care of it
  • takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
  • has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
  • is living out his purpose

He’s figured out what he wants to contribute to the world and is doing it. He’s ambitious but also takes time to relax and have fun. He’s intentional about building and pouring into those important to him. He wakes up each day excited to learn, do, contribute. A fulfilled man.

All of these things are a life force for him. He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on. He’s someone she can lean on, learn from, respect, and desire. He’s fully perfect & external to her. And that grounded, stable presence pulls her in.

We’ve all been in situations where someone we are dating is one but not the other. For example, someone who is fascinated with us but have nothing going on in their own life. That’s a turn off. Or the incredible person with the incredible life, but they barely reach out or make an effort. Also a turn off. Both pieces — fascinated and fascinating — are needed to maintain attraction.

Earlier, we discussed the theory that the “pink is for girls, blue is for boys” binary is foisted on children by society. In baby photos from the late 1800s, male and female tots wear frilly white dresses — so how did pink onesies with “Princess” emblazoned on the butt infiltrate American girls’ wardrobes?


According to Smithsonian.com, the shift toward pink and blue happened gradually. For centuries, all children had worn practical white dresses, which could easily be pulled up to change diapers, and bleached when said diapers inevitably exploded. Pastel baby clothes were introduced in the mid-19th century, but according to University of Maryland historian Jo B. Paoletti, author of Pink and Blue: Telling the Girls From the Boys in America, the colors weren’t gender-specific at first. From Smithsonian.com:

Ladies’ Home Journal article in June 1918 said, “The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.” Other sources said blue was flattering for blonds, pink for brunettes; or blue was for blue-eyed babies, pink for brown-eyed babies, according to Paoletti.

In 1927, Time magazine printed a chart showing sex-appropriate colors for girls and boys according to leading U.S. stores. In Boston, Filene’s told parents to dress boys in pink. So did Best & Co. in New York City, Halle’s in Cleveland and Marshall Field in Chicago.

In the 1940s manufacturers settled on pink for girls and blue for boys, so Baby Boomers were raised with wearing the two colors. But that wasn’t the end of the story. Paoletti says that due to the women’s liberation movement, more unisex baby clothes came into style in the late ’60s and ’70s. Yet pink and blue came back in the mid-’80s, with the development of prenatal testing. Once parents could find out whether they were having a boy or a girl, they could outfit their nursery in the “appropriate” color. Manufacturers pushed the fad too after realizing affluent parents would buy a whole new set of baby products once they found out Junior was expecting a little sister.

Paoletti says that while researching her book, which will be published later this year, she became more critical of the pink/blue trend. “The loss of neutral clothing is something that people should think more about. And there is a growing demand for neutral clothing for babies and toddlers now, too,” she says. Evidence that pink and blue weren’t always in favor gives us hope that neutral colors can make a comeback — even if a stroll through Babies ‘R Us makes it seem like blue fire truck-emblazoned “Mommy’s Boy” overalls are here to stay.


When Did Girls Start Wearing Pink?

Earlier: Girls Are Pink, Boys Are Blue: On Toddlers And Gender Roles

Image via Aleksandra Zaitseva/.

You could argue that it doesn’t really matter what colour babies are exposed to the most, but it can even affect the way we, as adults, treat them. There’s one famous study showing that women treated the exact same babies differently depending on whether they were dressed in pink or blue. If the clothes were blue they assumed it was a boy, played more physical games with them and encouraged them to play with a squeaky hammer, whereas they would gently soothe the baby dressed in pink and choose a doll for them to play with.

Pink for boys?

But what about the idea that a century ago little boys were dressed in pink and pink for girls is only a recent fashion? It seems even that might be something of a myth too. Psychology writer Christian Jarrett describes in his new book Great Myths of the Brain, how an Italian psychologist Marco Del Giudice, who tried to find the origins of this idea, could find just four short magazine quotes, describing pink as the colour for boys. In two of these he believes that perhaps the blue and pink were accidentally swapped around. That seems unlikely to me, but when he searched a database of five million books printed in American or British English from 1800-2000 more convincing was the lack of any mentions of “pink for a boy”, even though from 1890 onwards there were increasing mentions of “pink for a girl”.

Even the association of pink with femininity today can backfire if it’s not used in the right way. Pink is often used for breast cancer campaigns, but researchers at Erasmus University Rotterdam found that when women were shown adverts dominated by the colour pink, they were in fact less likely to think they’d contract breast cancer themselves or to donate money to a cancer charity. The authors don’t believe this was because they hated the colour pink, but because when they were reminded of their gender so overtly, the adverts felt so personally threatening that it set off denial mechanisms.

But there is one way at least in which pink can be useful for both women and men. Back in 2002 researchers in Switzerland who were keen to increase the response rate to surveys, found that printing questionnaires on coloured paper made no difference, unless the paper was pink, in which case 12% more people filled it in.

Colours, it seems, influence our behaviour much more than we realise.

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Below you can find a list of colors with names. Included are color names for yellow, orange, red, pink, violet, blue, green, brown and gray colors. For full list of color names please see the attached poster or scroll down for individual colors.


Yellow Color Names

Mellow yellow, Cyber yellow, Royal yellow, Banana yellow, Tuscany yellow, Lemon yellow, Bumblebee yellow, Cream yellow, Peach yellow, Laguna yellow, Mustard yellow, Corn yellow, Pineapple yellow, Flaxen yellow, Eggnog yellow, Trombone yellow, Flax yellow, Ecru yellow, Sepia yellow

Orange Color Names

Gold orange, Goldenrod orange, Pumpkin orange, Fire orange, Ochre orange, Burnt orange, Dijon orange, Tangerine orange, Tiger orange, Honey orange, Carrot orange, Amber orange, Apricot orange, Bronze orange, Cider orange, Clay orange, Rust orange, Amber orange, Spice orange.

Red Color Names

Salmon red, Scarlet red, Barn red, Imperial red, Indian red, Chili red, Fire brick Red, Maroon red, Redwood red, Raspberry red, Candy apple red, Ferrari red, Persian red, US Flag red, Carmine red, Burgundy red, Crimson red, Sangria red, Mahogany red.

Pink Color Names

Violet Color Names

Hibiscus violet, Mauve violet, Fandango violet,

Lavender violet, Orchid violet, Lilac violet, Electric violet, African violet, Grape violet, Amethyst violet, Byzantine violet, Helio Violet, Floral violet, Thistle violet,, Orchid violet, Plum violet, Eggplant violet, Lollipop violet, Royal violet, Mulberry violet

Blue Color Names

Yale blue, Pigeon blue, Sky blue, Independence blue, Air force blue, Baby blue, Navy blue, Steel blue, Carolina blue, Turkish blue, Maybe blue, Cornflower blue, Olympic blue, Sapphire blue, Azure blue, Egyptian blue, Denim blue, Prussian blue, Space blue.

Green Color Names

Forest green, Sage green, Olive green, Lime green, Hunter green, Jade green, Artichoke green, Fern green, Jungle green, Laurel green, Moss green, Mint green, Pine green, Tea green, Army green, Emerald green, Kelly green, Sacramento green, Sea green

Brown Color Names

Cedar brown, Cinnamon brown, Brunette brown, Mocha brown, Umber brown, Tortilla brown, Chocolate brown, Syrup brown, Gingerbread brown, Caramel brown, Walnut brown, Pecan brown, Wood brown, Hickory brown, Espresso brown, Peanut brown, Tawny brown, Coffee brown, Russet brown.

Gray Color Names

Why do girls check out other girls?

But what about the ladies toilets on Saturday night, I hear you cry. Explain the endless compliments toing and froing between the blurry eyed girls mustering enough balance to paint eyeliner on their cheeks. Why would they be so gushing to other women in the toilet if they’re secretly in competition with each other? Surely, women are not so contrived?

“The alpha female may be the biggest threat yet she’s also the one with whom women want to align. Being close to her gives status and they do so through flattery,” says Sweet, in such a matter of fact tone I can’t help but think I’m talking to a natural history expert about mating in the wild. The female of the (human) species – aka my mates and I – is perhaps more complex than I first thought.

So take heed, especially when cheek-liner girl only likes your shoes but loves the entire outfit of the girl next to you in the queue – you’ve just been demoted. Tough break.

Lemarc Thomas, managing director of elite international dating agency, Seventy Thirty, describes how “women who sign up are always curious about the other female customers at the agency, they want to suss out the competition so they can bring their ‘A’ game.”

The idea that we are all silently battling it out with one another over our looks sounds a little absurd. Yet after more than thrice feeling telepathically slain on just one commute, I started to realise this thesis is not entirely untrue. I guess I do compare myself to others. I ask Jessica, a teacher, whether she thinks we engage in secret contests with one another and she ashamedly confesses: “Today I was walking behind a girl and the entire time I was deliberating whether her legs were fatter than mine.”

Thoughts like this are surely not part of our hard-wired genetics as females, but Jessica is not alone in these feelings, and if anything, this attitude is becoming increasingly common among women.

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It’s not particularly ground-breaking news that society, by the way, tells women to adhere to unattainable standards of beauty these days. The messages are everywhere – in films, fashion and the music industry. Even when you just want to get a spot of lunch at Itsu – what sort of marketing genius thinks it a good idea to plaster half-naked models on some of their packaging? I mean, if ever there were more of a reminder not to have lunch.

Elsewhere, adverts like Rimmel tell us that a leather-clad Georgia Jagger on a motorbike epitomises the ‘London look’ when we all know the London look involves a sweat-clad dishevelled girl pressed into someone’s armpit on the tube. “The trouble is women internalise these oppressive messages which leads them to subconsciously ranking themselves lower in comparison to others,” reveals Sweet.

Nonetheless, us mere mortals are really trying hard to reach these ideals. With the rise of social media, such as Instagram and Facebook, we are striving more than ever to keep up appearances. “It’s natural to want to look good,” notes Thomas, “but now women are armed with a camera phone and an idea they have to manage their own brand.” Scary stuff.

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Grace Childs, a clinical psych at South Essex Trust agrees: “Girls are ever more committed to looking a certain way – they’re getting better at it. This is upping the stakes for everyone, resulting in increasingly drastic measures being taken by girls in order to keep up.”


And this obsessive behaviour is becoming normalised. My mind races to that Perle du Lait advert as a small piece of evidence for the competition felt by women and the steps they will take to keep up. It is an advert in which a dinner party host offers her three female guests pudding. I know. Pudding … Pud-ding. The ladies are astounded, they’ve not let themselves have pud-ding since their ninth birthday (I’m guessing). They’re just as slim as their svelte host but how, oh how, can the host afford to eat pudding? Long story short, the guests raid her house, as we all would in the face of such an offer- naturally. Bizarrely enough they find nothing under the sofa or in the drawers which answers this pudding conundrum. Then they find out the host means yoghurt and then they all laugh because they are all thrilled about that … personally I do not class yoghurt as pudding.

At moments like that, it would seem the entirety of female society is doomed. Programmed to look for an approval, which apparently only comes once we reach a certain “size 8 curvy figure” (an oxymoron if ever I heard one). Then, to add insult to injury, society keeps recommending yoghurt as a way to get there.

OK, perhaps I am overreacting, especially about Perle du Lait. Sometimes it’s easy to drown in the shallows. Izzy, a researcher at the BBC, gives me a reality check. “Yes, I look at other women and sometimes think DAMN IT, when they look good. But when I’m just having a fun time, I really couldn’t care less,” she says, assertively. It would seem our own happiness has a direct effect on how we look at others.

“My advice to those who keep comparing themselves to other women? Go and do something with your time that gives you a greater sense of self. Pick up a hobby, learn a language, enrich your life,” Sweet suggests. Maybe I will, after all, speaking French might give me an edge on the competition, right?

Julia Oliphant, 23, lives and works in London. She writes a blog Losing Our Edge with journalist Alicia Burrell.

About a month ago I was invited to give a brief talk to my nephew Gianni’s first grade class—nothing too deep, mind you, rather simply about what it’s like living in a foreign place such as Belfast. The highlight of my presentation was the uproarious laughter that erupted when I mentioned that people on this side of the Atlantic refer to diapers as “nappies” and cookies as “biscuits.” But one must play to the audience.

Now, my sister resides in a small town in central Ohio, so perhaps there’s something about the mid-West which breeds especially endearing and affectionate six-year-olds, but I should be forgiven for momentarily siding with Rousseau that afternoon on his overly simplistic view that society corrupts and turns such naïve, innocent cherubs into monstrous adults. To give an example, one little girl waved at me in so kind a manner that it seemed, in that instant, I was in the presence of a better species of humankind, one that naturally regards other people as benevolent curiosities and the contrivances of social etiquette haven’t tarnished and brutally tamed genuine emotions.

What punctured this rose-tinted illusion of mine was the knowledge that these diminutive figures giggling and sitting Indian-style on the carpet before me might also be viewed as incubating adolescents. Perhaps it’s just me, but I’d swear the world knows not an eviler soul than an angry, angst-ridden, hormonally intoxicated teen. And if this little pigtailed girl is anything like the rest of her gender, in just a few years’ time she will unfortunately morph into an eye-rolling, gossiping, ostracizing, sarcastic, dismissive, cliquish ninth-grader, embroiled in the classic cafeteria style bitchery of adolescent female social politics.

If that strikes you as misogynistic, rest assured it’s merely an empirical statement. (Rest assured, also, that I’m afraid I have much in common with this tactical style, and I have great respect for more refined Machiavellians, so I’m not casting stones here.) In fact, over the past few decades, scholars from a variety of disciplines—including developmental psychology, evolutionary biology and cultural anthropology—have noted a striking difference in the standard patterns of aggression between reproductive-aged males and females. While teenage boys and young male adults are more prone to engage in direct aggression, which includes physical acts of violence such as hitting, punching and kicking, females, in comparison, exhibit pronounced social aggression, which includes such obnoxious things as mentioned in the various acts of bitchery listed above.

A prototypical example of an act of teenage social aggression is given by University of Flinders psychologists Rosalyn Shute, Laurence Owens and Phillip Slee in a 2002 article published in the International Journal of Adolescence and Youth:

Jo is a fifteen-year-old girl. She is average at her high school work and she is involved in school tennis in summer and netball in winter. In the past, she was well accepted, having a close group of friends and getting along well with most of her peers. After a day off with illness, she returns to school to find that things have changed. She walks over to her usual group but when she tries to talk to any of them, their responses are abrupt and unfriendly. She tries to catch the eye of her friend, Brooke, but Brooke avoids her gaze. In first lesson, she sits in her usual seat only to find that Brooke is sitting with someone else. At recess time, she joins the group late but just in time to overhear one of the girls bitching about her…

In peer discussion groups with teenage girls in South Australia, Shute and her colleagues found that Jo’s situation is incredibly common. And what’s especially sad is that adult authority figures such as teachers and parents often miss such devastating acts of reputational violence because they’re so subtle and often occur “in context”—that is, they’re less conspicuous than the physical altercations of boys.

Let me attempt to preempt the obvious criticism that this is not, of course, to say that all teenage girls are catty—need I really point out the obvious that many are of course wonderful, thoughtful and mature people? Nor is it to say that teenage boys are never socially aggressive or that girls don’t occasionally display physical violence. But the culturally recurrent findings of female social aggression, and the largely invariant age distribution where such behaviors and attitudes are especially prominent (flaring up between about age eleven and seventeen in girls), do suggest a strong psychological bent in the fairer sex that leads “naturally” to these types of catty displays.

This question of whether female social aggression is innate, much like men’s reaction to curl their hands into fists, was explored recently by Washington State University at Vancouver anthropologists Nicole Hess and Edward Hagen. In a 2006 study reported in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, Hess and Hagen rounded up 255 undergraduate students—men and women ranging from eighteen to twenty-five years in age—and asked them to read and mull over the following social scenario, which I’ll summarize here for brevity.

Let’s say that you’re at a campus party and out of the corner of your eye you notice one of your classmates (another male student for male participants and another female student for female participants) conversing with the teaching assistant for the class you share with this other student. The other student, who is unusually short, is overheard saying some rather nasty lies about you—in particular, he or she is telling the teaching assistant that you haven’t been working on a joint project for the class. Instead, this person says, you’ve been slacking off, coming to class with a hangover and partying in Baja. Your TA glances over at you, with your beer in hand, and then glances away quickly as if disgusted. Then your duplicitous classmate walks over to you and says, innocently, “Hey! How are things going? Hasn’t the weather been great lately?”

Once participants read this basic story, they completed a questionnaire about how they’d like to respond. On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being “disagree strongly” and 10 being “agree strongly,” participants were asked questions such as, “I feel like punching this person right now,” “I feel like telling people at the party that this person is clueless and spews useless comments during lecture,” and “I feel like saying, ‘Yeah, the weather has been nice.” Whereas the first two items are measures of direct and indirect aggression, respectively, the last item presumably tapped into the participant’s willingness to turn the other cheek, so to speak. Importantly, Hess and Hagen also asked the participants how appropriate they thought various acts of violence against the treacherous classmate would be.

Findings from this study indicated a clear difference in aggressive responses between the genders, with women overwhelmingly compelled to retaliate by attacking the offender’s reputation, mostly through gossip. This gender effect panned out even after controlling for participants’ evaluation of the social appropriateness of such acts. In other words, in spite of the fact that the women realized malicious gossip wasn’t socially appropriate, this was nevertheless their preferred first point of attack. Men, on the other hand, were more evenly divided in their response, but failed to show the same preferential bias for acts of “informational warfare” against the unlikable classmate.

Although most researchers acknowledge the somewhat speculative nature of evolutionary arguments in this area, female social aggression among reproductively viable females is usually interpreted as a form of mate competition. Hess and Hagen, for example, suggest that the sex differences uncovered in their study would likely have been even more pronounced in a younger group of participants. Evolutionarily, historically and cross-culturally, they point out, girls in the fifteen- to nineteen-year-old range would be most actively competing for mates. Thus, anything that would sabotage another females’ image as a desirable reproductive partner, such as commenting on her promiscuity, physical appearance or some other aberrant or quirky traits, tends to be the stuff of virile gossip. Also, the degree of bitchiness should then demonstrate a sort of bell-shaped curve over the female life course. On the surface this seems mostly true. Anecdotally, I can’t think of a single postmenopausal woman who seems hell-bent on undermining another woman’s dating life—unless, perhaps, that involves spreading rumors about the sexual rival of her fertile daughter, in whom she has a vested adaptive interest. Then I can actually give you a name. As with most overarching research questions, though, there are many empirical studies yet to be run on the peculiar nature of female social aggression.

And I should say, if you’re still unconvinced and you’ve any doubt about acts of social aggression occurring in practice, have a gander at the current topics of ongoing conversation among the girls of Jezebel.com.

Editors’ Note, 5/29/09: For a response to the concerns raised in the comments, see Women Really Are More Socially Aggressive than Men (With Apologies to Jezebel.com).

In this column presented by Scientific American Mind magazine, research psychologist Jesse Bering of Queen’s University Belfast ponders some of the more obscure aspects of everyday human behavior. Ever wonder why yawning is contagious, why we point with our index fingers instead of our thumbs or whether being breastfed as an infant influences your sexual preferences as an adult? Get a closer look at the latest data as “Bering in Mind” tackles these and other quirky questions about human nature. Sign up for the RSS feed or friend Dr. Bering on Facebook and never miss an installment again.

I’m Not Like Other Girls

Crystal JacksonFollow May 16, 2019 · 4 min read Photo by Andreja Mihailovic on Unsplash

I was once the girl who would say, I’m not like other girls. I was a guy’s girl, the kind of girl who had more men friends than women ones and was proud of it. I wasn’t one of those girls.

Every single time we speak those words, we aren’t shattering glass ceilings. We’re throwing a brick at women everywhere.

We’re defining being a girl or woman as being something less than. We’re saying that femininity means something, and that something is negative. To say that we aren’t like other girls is to throw all the other girls under the bus and then to climb over them to get where we’re going.

I thought that being different from other girls I knew made me special; it distinguished me from the bubble gum basic bitch. But it didn’t make me special. It just made me misogynistic, uninformed, and unkind.

We are like other women, whether we want to own that label or not. Women are as diverse as men. Some of us like makeup, and some don’t. Some are sporty and don’t mind getting dirty, and others would rather shop and get their nails done. Some are mothers, and some aren’t able to be or simply aren’t interested in that. Some work, some stay at home, and what other people choose to do is none of our business. There’s not a hierarchy of womanhood where one woman’s interests make her better at being a woman.

We wouldn’t think that a woman who had a mastectomy or hysterectomy was less of a woman, but we do seem to think that certain interests and activities can make someone less worthy than other kinds of women. We’re mistaking learned gender roles for gender, and we’re overlooking all our similarities to embrace only our differences.

There’s another truth we’re overlooking when we brag about our male friends and proudly declare we don’t have female ones. It’s a truth I discovered long ago. Many male friends use words like “friend zone” and then hang around hoping to get laid. Not every male friend sees us platonically. What’s interesting is that I have many women friends who identify as straight, gay, bi, or any other sexual orientation, and none of them have ever made me feel threatened or objectified over the course of our friendship. Not once.

It’s easy to see which male friends see us in that light. They’re the ones sending us provocative messages even when they’re in relationships. There the ones that drop us when we are in a relationship. They hit on us when we’re drinking, and they like to blur the lines between friendship and something more. We brag about friendship with men as if sex isn’t a factor, and we act like friendship with women is somehow less rewarding.

There’s this wonderful sisterhood available to us if we choose to access it. Where the patriarchy has shamed men into having friendships where vulnerability is hidden (except for the occasional celebrated bromance), women have the opportunity to be vulnerable and to share our struggles with one another. We have access to a beautiful community of love and support that is entirely platonic.

If we’ve found in the past that women are a certain kind of way we don’t like, maybe the problem is with the kind of women we choose to spend our time with rather than women in general. Maybe they’re reflecting parts of ourselves that we don’t like, or maybe we’re ignoring our intuition and spending time with people who just aren’t a good match for our energy. When we raise our vibration, we tend to attract a community of friends (both men and women) who we can enjoy and respect.

Saying we’re not like other women is to disrespect all women- including ourselves. When we raise our children with these harmful messages, we’re not making womanhood better; we’re just promoting misogyny. It’s an ignorant message that ignores that women are full humans, capable of great diversity. Instead of shaming other girls and women for their interests and choices, we can choose to celebrate them.

Now I’m the woman who wants to empower other women. I’m not climbing over women to get where I’m going, and I’m certainly not going to brag about how I’m not like them. I am like them. I’m a woman and proud of it. Other women aren’t my competition, and they aren’t out to get me. We, women, are not the enemy. Our own attitudes are the enemy. Our perception of women as being less — that’s the enemy. But other women?

I’m happy to be one. To be like them. To befriend them. To say anything else is to hurt us all, and I’m not about that life anymore.

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Sksksksk—this upcoming holiday season, the VSCO girl trend is leaping off the editing app and Instagram and right into your holiday shopping list. VSCO girls are the internet’s latest wave of “it” girls and are characterized by a specific aesthetic—think hazy, grainy pic effects, millennial pink and baby blue hues, and VSCO filters like A6 and C1—that fetishizes brands and an expensive, label-driven lifestyle. But what the heck do you buy them come December?

How can you spot a VSCO girl? Well, if the pre-teen or teenage girl in your life throws her hair up in a velvet scrunchie, obsesses over her sticker collection (which she then adds to her laptop or water bottle), and never removes her AirPods, then you’ve got yourself a VSCO girl.

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Now that you’ve identified the VSCO girl in your life, how are you supposed to buy her something for Christmas, Hannukah, and all other holidays? A crucial part of the VSCO girl lifestyle is expensive things. Brands like Vans, Hydroflask, Brandy Melville, Lululemon, and Glossier are all trend-approved staples. And trust us—they ain’t cheap.

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While it’s easy to feel like VSCO girls have everything they could ever need or want already, don’t get discouraged. She may be the girl who has it all, but she’ll totally fangirl over any one of the gifts included here. Keep reading for 50 VSCO girl-approved gift ideas—from AirPods to Fjallraven-Kanken backpacks to the iconic sticker-laden Hydroflask.

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The interests of teen girls are vast, complicated, and multi-faceted. This is great news when it comes to considering what teen girls have in store for the future—based on some excellent, Saturday Night Live-rivaling TikTok documentation out there, it would seem the world is in good hands—but perhaps a little less so when it comes to holiday shopping.

These wide ranges of interests, depths, and emotions can make gift-giving tough, but we’ve done the work for you to figure out what the best options are for every kind of teenage girl. Read on for the best gifts for teen girls this year.

1. For the trendy student: Fjallraven Kanken backpack

Fjallraven Kanken is the go-to brand for simple, classic, ever-stylish backpacks. When we tested for the best backpacks, we named the Kanken with the laptop compartment the best backpack for “casual” use, due to its lightweight construction, adjustable padded straps, and easy-to-clean vinyl material. Whether you get the 15-inch version with the laptop compartment or the smaller, classic version, it’ll be a happily-received gift.

Get the Fjallraven Kanken Classic Backpack from Amazon for $79.95

Get the 15” Fjallraven Kanken Laptop Backpack for Everyday from Amazon for $114

2. For the TikTokker: A Popsocket

A Popsocket is a gadget that sticks to the back of a phone or phone case and can be popped in or out to create an easy carrying handle or stand. This makes talking on the phone, FaceTiming, taking photos, and anything else you might need your phone for much easier. We like this pressed flower top, or, for a Star Wars fan, the Baby Yoda version, but it’s removable, so you can get a bunch of different tops to mix and match.

Get the Baby Yoda Popsocket for $15

Get the Pressed Flower Larkspur Purple Popsocket for $15

3. For the VSCO Girl: Crocs

Crocs are having a trendy moment among teen girls right now (no, seriously). The lightweight rubber clogs are all over Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, so chances are pretty good that they’re already on a teen girl’s holiday wish list. Browse through the Crocs’ vast color selection, which includes lavender, teal, and blush pink, to find the best pair for your giftee. It also can’t hurt to throw in some Jibbitz as an extra stocking stuffer.

Get the Classic Clog from Crocs for $44.95

4. For the eco-friendly hydrator: Hydro Flask

The Hydro Flask is the status-symbol water bottle of the moment—and it doesn’t hurt that it’s actually a great hydration vessel. In our tests—in which we named it the best water bottle of 2019—we found that it keeps liquids at their intended temperatures for hours without creating condensation on the outside of the bottle. It also comes in a wide range of colors, like icy blue, jade, pink, and more, so the teen in your life will want to carry it around school.

Get the Hydro Flask Standard Mouth 18 Ounce Water Bottle from Amazon for $29.95

5. For the girl who always loses her hair ties: Scrunchies

Hair ties always seem to evaporate and go missing right when you need them most. Help the teen girl in your life replenish her supply with this scrunchie 10-pack. The set comes with a wide range of colors, textures, and fabrics, so it’s easy to mix and match with any outfit. Plus, they work well to keep hair tied back throughout the day.

Get the Perfect 10 Scrunchie Set from Urban Outfitters for $18

6. For the aspiring YouTuber: GoPro vlogging camera

This small but mighty GoPro—our top pick for an affordable vlogging camera—is sure to be appreciated by any YouTube-watcher who’s thinking about starting their own channel. It’s easy to figure out, has great optics, and possesses a deep depth of field, which means the object you’re shooting stays in focus no matter how far away you are. It’s also waterproof and resistant to drops, so it’s well-equipped to withstand drops and adventures.

Get the GoPro Hero 7 Black from Amazon for $298.99

7. For the photographer: Fujifilm Instax 9 Mini Instant Camera Starter Pack

Wallet-sized, instantly printable photos never go out of style. And the Fujifilm Instax 9, our current pick for best affordable instant camera, is a great way to get them. It’s simple, easy to use, and produces perfectly vintage-looking snaps with each shot. As a bonus, the camera comes in a range of bright, peppy colors—like “flamingo pink” and “ice blue”—so the camera looks fun in addition to being fun.

Get the Fujifilm Instax 9 Mini Instant Camera Starter Pack from Amazon for $69.99

8. For the on-the-go music lover: Apple AirPods

AirPods are among the coolest and trendiest tech accessories you can get right now. They’re a legitimately good product, too, with great sound quality, true wireless capabilities, and an easy-to-store charging case. Also, did we mention that they’re cool? Not only will giving them as a present up the status quo of your giftee, they’ll earn you some points as well.

Get Apple AirPods with charging case from Amazon for $144

9. For the eco-conscious sipper: Sipwell Stainless Steel Straws

“Save the turtles” is a popular meme-slash-genuine-sentiment among teens right now—which means that, if they don’t already have some, reusable straws are probably pretty high up on their gift wish list. Our best value pick for reusable straws, the Sipwell stainless steel straws, should be your pick. They’re easy to clean, are great for sipping water and iced coffee, and don’t give whatever you’re drinking a metallic taste.

Get Sipwell Stainless Steel Straws from Amazon for $5.89

10. For the laptop dropper: Evecase laptop sleeve

Laptops are easy to drop. Preempt any laptop-dropping issues with this Evecase laptop sleeve, our choice for “best value” in our test of laptop protectors. We love its diamond-shaped foam neoprene bumps and its form-fitting shape, which help keep any kind of laptop safe and secure in a stylish, affordable package.

Get the Evecase Laptop Sleeve from Amazon for $12.99

11. For the serious student: Asus Chromebook Flip

The Asus Chromebook Flip has pretty much everything you could want in a laptop—like a sleek design, crisp displays, and quick operating speeds—for a relatively low price, which is why it’s our top pick for laptops for students. If you know a teen who need a laptop, this is an excellent choice.

Get the Asus Chromebook Flip from Amazon for $519

12. For the first-time shaver: Billie starter kit

Not all teen girls shave. But for those that do—or are just starting out—it’s hard to imagine a better way to do so than with Billie razors. We loved the razor subscription service when we tested it because the razor has incredible mobility that makes it easy to shave any part of the body, and, unlike some subscriptions, it’s easy to navigate the ordering process. All this—plus its affordable (in comparison to other razors) price—makes it a great gift for a teen who wants to start shaving but is unsure of what products to get.

Get the Billie Starter Kit for $9

13. For the anxious period-haver: Thinx Fresh Start Period Kit

Part of the teenage experience is getting your (menstrual) period in the middle of (academic) third period and having to excuse yourself to the bathroom to wad up some toilet paper in your underwear and pray that it holds up for the rest of the day. Or, at least, it was—until period underwear came along.

We tested a bunch of period panties and loved Thinx the most, because they absorb menstrual fluid quickly and feel just like a regular pair of underwear. You can gift your teen a regular pair or the Fresh Start Period Kit, which contains three pairs of underwear designed for people between the ages of 9 to 16 in cute, comfy styles.

This might be a gift better suited to give in private than under the Christmas tree, but, no matter what, it will come in handy.

Get the Fresh Start Period Kit from Thinx for $59

14. For the rom-com lover: To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before box set

To All The Boys: PS I Still Love You, the sequel to Netflix’s much-beloved 2018 movie To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before comes out in February. If you know a teen who loved the movie—and chances are, you do, considering around 80 million people watched the first one—get them a set of the Jenny Han novels used as source material. This way, they’ll get to know who Lara Jean ends up with before they watch the next movie.

Get the To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before box set from Amazon for $21.95

15. For the skincare enthusiast: Mario Badescu mini must-haves set

This set from skincare brand Mario Badescu, which contains a cleanser, night cream, lip balm, and facial spray, is great for anyone, whether they’re devoted to skincare or are just coming around to the idea of washing their face before bed. Reviewers say it works to clear up skin without feeling harsh, so it’s ideal for any skin type. Best of all, Mario Badescu isn’t too expensive, so they can restock on their own later if they like it.

Get the Mario Badescu Mini Must-Haves Set from Urban Outfitters for $24

16. For the Netflix fiend: An iPad

iPads can come in handy for just about everything, from schoolwork to reading books to a secondary—or even replacement—laptop. Whether the teen you give it to uses it to download textbooks or mainline Netflix, it’s sure to be appreciated.

Get the iPad from Amazon for $299

17. For the low-key stylist: J. Crew Slim Perfect T-Shirt

A simple-yet-sturdy tee is a fantastic addition to any high schooler or college student’s wardrobe, because they can help the wearer look presentable and distinguished without putting in too much effort. We love the Slim Perfect t-shirt from J. Crew because it’s soft, opaque—even in white—and has more coverage on the shoulders than most tees, so it’s easy to dress up.

Get the Slim Perfect T-Shirt from J. Crew for $29.50

18. For the self care devotee: Glossier Body Hero duo, Glossier Boy Brow, Carmex lip balm

Personal grooming products can make a great present—as long as you get the right ones from the right brands. We recommend two from Glossier: Boy Brow, the brand’s bestselling eyebrow pomade, which fills in brows without making them look overdone, and the Body Hero duo, which gets you shower gel and lotion in the brand’s signature scent.

It also can’t hurt to throw in some Carmex, a lip balm beloved by so-called VSCO girls and at least one of Reviewed’s writers.

Get the Body Hero duo from Glossier for $35

Get Boy Brow from Glossier for $16

Get Carmex Lip Balm for $5.54

19. For the pop-up DJ: JBL Flip Waterproof Speaker

Whether it’s in a college dorm or stuffed in a backpack for an impromptu DJing sesh, a portable speaker always good to have around. We like the JBL Flip, which has great sound quality, a long battery life, and solid waterproofing powers. Because of these factors, it’s sure to be a speaker that will stick around for years.

Get the JBL Flip Waterproof Speaker from Amazon for $79.95

20. For the monogram fanatic: Anthropologie monogram necklace

Trends come and go, but monograms are forever. That’s why we love this simple block letter monogram necklace from Anthropologie, which allows the wearer to hang a letter—their first name, last name, or that of someone they love—around their neck. The letters hang slightly tilted around the neck, which makes it great for layering with other pieces of jewelry or wearing on its own.

Get the Block Letter Monogram Necklace from Anthropologie for $38

21. For the girl who goes straight from school to practice: Aerie high-waist leggings

Dressing or packing for a day that involves going to school in the morning and cross country practice in the afternoon can be tough. But one item of apparel can be used for both—and has been proven to be in high demand from our survey of teens: Aerie’s full-coverage, opaque leggings that can easily be worn with a big sweater to school or with a sports bra and tee for after-school athletics.

Get High-Waisted Leggings from Aerie for $23.97

22. For the girl who loves feeling cozy at school: Thread & Supply Fleece Pullover

Classrooms and college lecture halls tend to stay freezing cold throughout the winter months, which means a good, thick sweatshirt is key to maintain a comfortable body temperature. (After all, most schools don’t let you wear your coat in class.) One option that’s sure to be a hit is this oversized fleece half-zip, made of a cozy teddy bear-style fabric. It’s also got a pocket in the front to keep hands warm (or store a cell phone).

Get the Thread & Supply Wubby Pullover from Nordstrom for $49

23. For the bracelet stacker: Pura Vida bracelets

Even a teen who’s never been much for jewelry will appreciate these stackable, surfer-chic Pura Vida bracelets, which can be worn all the time and withstand vigorous activity.

Pick and choose between individual bracelets or themed sets—like the Dreaming Out Loud or Succulent pack—or go for the subscription package, so they can add to their stack each month.

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Blue is for boys and pink is for girls, we’re told. But do these gender norms reflect some inherent biological difference between the sexes, or are they culturally constructed? It depends on whom you ask.

Decades of research by University of Maryland historian Jo Paoletti suggests that up until the 1950s, chaos reigned when it came to the colors of baby paraphernalia. “There was no gender-color symbolism that held true everywhere,” Paoletti told Life’s Little Mysteries. Because the pink-for-a-girl, blue-for-a-boy social norms only set in during the 20th century in the United States, they cannot possibly stem from any evolved differences between boys’ and girls’ favorite colors, Paoletti has argued.

Baby books, new baby announcements and cards, gift lists and newspaper articles from the early 1900s indicate that pink was just as likely to be associated with boy babies as with girl babies. For example, the June 1918 issue of the Infant’s Department, a trade magazine for baby clothes manufacturers, said: “There has been a great diversity of opinion on this subject, but the generally accepted rule is pink for the boy and blue for the girl. The reason is that pink being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy; while blue, which is more delicate and dainty is prettier for the girl.”

But this attempt at establishing the rule for retailers and manufacturers clearly did not stick. “There was a 1927 chart in Time Magazine where department stores in various cities were contacted and asked what colors they used for boys and girls. And it was all over the map,” Paoletti said. It wasn’t until after the Second World War that the modern convention (pink for girls, blue for boys) started to dominate, and even so, it didn’t “gel” until the 1980s, she said.

As for why today’s strict color-gender norms set in at all, Philip Cohen, a sociologist also at the University of Maryland, thinks they are, essentially, the outcome of a marketing ploy.

“This happened during a time when mass marketing was appearing,” Cohen told Life’s Little Mysteries. “Being ‘gender normal’ is very important to us, and as a marketing technique, if retailers can convince you that being gender normal means you need to buy a certain product — cosmetics, plastic surgery, blue or pink clothing, etc. — it just makes sense from a production or mass marketing perspective,” Cohen wrote in an email.

As for why one color-gender pairing came to dominate over the opposite pairing, Paoletti argues that the rule we use today may reflect the influence of French fashion. Traditional French culture paired pink with girls and blue with boys (while Belgian and Catholic German culture used the opposite), and because France set the fashion in the 20th century, their tradition held sway.

However, a new letter published July 21 in the Archives of Sexual Behavior questions this widely accepted pink-for-girls, blue-for-boys origin story.

Google book search

Marco Del Guidice, a sociologist at the University of Turin in Italy, says a simple search of all the books published in the United States between 1880 and 1980, which have been scanned by Google, suggests that pink was associated with girls and blue with boys during that entire time. Using the program Google Ngram, he searched for the phrases “blue for boys,” “pink for girls,” “blue for girls, “pink for boys,” as well as the singular versions “blue for a boy,” and so on. The rules we abide by (blue for boys and pink for girls) appeared in books from 1880 onward, becoming more common over time, but the opposite rules (pink for boys and blue for girls) didn’t turn up in the book search at all.

“Pink seems to have been a feminine color at least since the late 19th century,” Del Guidice wrote in an email. “In summary, when inspected closely, the reversal in pink-blue gender coding shows many warning signs of a scientific ‘urban legend,’ an urban legend that somehow managed to infiltrate the peer-reviewed literature.”

If pink has always been feminine and blue masculine, this allows for the possibility that these gender-color associations have some basis in human biology. Do girls inherently prefer pink, and do boys inherently prefer blue? No one knows, Del Guidice said. “I bet the answer will turn out to involve an interplay of culture and biology. For example, in 2007 a study found evidence that males and females may be sensitive to different regions of the color spectrum, but the explanations that have been proposed are still very speculative and leave much to be desired. I think this is an absolutely fascinating question.”

However, Del Guidice added, people stopped studying whether there was a biological basis for the gender-color associations because it seemed obvious that there couldn’t be, in light of what he calls the “urban legend” that the associations only formed recently.

Back and forth

Paoletti says Del Guidice’s book search simply missed most of the visual representations of mixed color-gender associations that she has observed. “I would never think of doing a word search in order to study something visual,” she said. The fact remains that baby paraphernalia from the early 20th century followed no single standard when it comes to gender-color associations — a confusion reflected in the magazine articles that Paoletti found.

Cohen adds that despite Del Guidice’s book-search results, all other evidence indicates that, today, we differentiate children by gender much more than we did 150 years ago, when babies of either gender were typically outfitted in white dresses. The recent strengthening of gender-color associations must be cultural, he argues, leaving little room for the notion that each sex has evolved its own color preference. “If you don’t have a strong reason why evolution would have dictated this and that, if you don’t have a biological basis for this preference, then you’re really just making it up,” he said.

The debate about how, exactly, we got to the point where something as impartial as the color pink seems infused with femininity, will probably rage on in the pages of academic journals. In the meantime, we’re left to ponder the bizarre truth that just a century ago, a magazine asserted, “the generally accepted rule is pink for the boy and blue for the girl.”

This story was provided by Life’s Little Mysteries, a sister site to LiveScience. Follow Natalie Wolchover on Twitter @nattyover or Life’s Little Mysteries @llmysteries. We’re also on Facebook & Google+.

How often have you walked into a baby’s nursery and been able to tell if the baby was a boy or a girl purely based on the colour of the room, toys and clothes?

It’s no wonder that it is never difficult to find the girls’ clothing section in a store; it is most likely going to stand out owing to the various hues and shades of pink. So then the question arises, do women really like pink or is it just associated with them? The answer is – a bit of both.

Studies show that prior to the age of 2 years, and even later, there is not a difference between boys and girls in their preference of objects of various colours. In fact, both genders prefer primary colours such as blue, over pink, brown, grey and other such secondary colours.

But around the age of 2 years, it is found that girls develop a preference for pink and boys start developing avoidance to the colour. The reasons are —

1. My parents dressed me in pink. It’s all I see now!

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Chances are, when infants are surrounded by certain colours during infancy, such as having blue clothes, toys, wallpaper etc. for boys and the corresponding pink equivalent for girls, it is highly probable that these children are likely to be partial to these colour choices as they grow up. So really, if you like pink a lot, chances are you wore a lot of pink clothes and played with a lot of pink toys while you were a child!

2. It is who you are, or at least whom you see yourself as.

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Studies show that children develop gender-stereotyped colour preferences between the ages of 2-3 years and this is highly dependent on one’s understanding of their gender and the accepted behaviour and social norms related to the gender.

You were likely to have started going to kindergarten/school by then and started discovering and making new friends, boys and girls alike. How you acted and what you did and played were highly directed by what you believed were “girly things” and “boyish things”.

So the explanation for your preference for the colour pink could be as simple as the result of the company you kept and the things you grew up playing with or doing.

3. It’s a marketing gimmick.

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I remember wanting my favourite Barbie to have a red and green tea party set, not a pink and white one. But it was only ever available in pink, as was every other Barbie related product.

Ever found yourself wanting “that” dress in a shade of green or blue but only finding it in pink? Here’s why we never got what we wanted. Most brands stick to the “pink is for girls and blue is for boys” adage as a marketing tool in order to increase sales because it is now a socially ingrained idea that the two genders couldn’t possibly want any other colour, especially not as kids!

All said and done, it doesn’t go to say that all women like pink and that pink is for girls/women and blue is for boys/men.

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As one grows older, the stereotype one is stuck with changes and has less of a forceful hold on the choices one makes. The times are changing. Men like pink just as much now, if not more than us womenfolk.

And for all parents reading this, give your child the freedom to discover their own likes and preferences! If your daughter likes a blue racecar, let her have it and if your son wants to play with a pink doll, let him play to his heart’s content! They will thank you for the freedom to choose one day.

Bottomline is, pink is just a colour, and it doesn’t define who you are. So this woman’s week, you be who you are – pink or blue or just all the colours of the rainbow!

Women really do prefer pink, researchers say

LONDON (Reuters) – Boys like blue, girls like pink and there isn’t much anybody can do about it, researchers said on Monday in one of the first studies to show scientifically that there are gender-based color preferences.

Babies lie in cots at a maternity ward in Singapore, March 29, 2007. Boys like blue, girls like pink and there isn’t much anybody can do about it, researchers said on Monday in one of the first studies to show scientifically that there are gender-based color preferences. REUTERS/Vivek Prakash

Researchers said these differences may have a basis in evolution in which females developed a preference for reddish colors associated with riper fruit and healthier faces.

Recent studies have suggested there is a universal preference for “blue”, and there has not been much previous evidence to support the idea of sex differences when picking colors, said Anya Hurlbert, a neuroscientist at Newcastle University who led the study.

“We speculate that this sex difference arose from sex-specific functional specialization in the evolutionary division of labor,” she wrote in Current Biology. “There are biological reasons for liking reddish things.”

In the study, the researchers asked a group of men and women to look at about 1,000 pairs of colored rectangles on a computer screen in a dark room and pick the ones they liked best as quickly as possible.

Afterwards, Hurlbert and colleagues plotted the results along the color spectrum and found that while men prefer blue, women gravitate towards the pinker end of the blue spectrum.

“Women have a very clear pattern. It’s low in the yellow and green regions and rises to a peak in the purplish to reddish region,” she said.

Hurlbert believes women’s preference for pink may have evolved on top of a natural, universal preference for blue.

“When you add it together you get the colors they intrinsically like, you get bluish red, which is sort of lilac or pink,” she said.

For men, thinking about colors was less important because as hunters they just needed to spot something dark and shoot it, Hurlbert said.

As for Eve, Hurlbert added, maybe there was a different reason she picked that apple.

“Red was the color of a good ripe fruit,” Hurlbert said.

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