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If/Then
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08 13 Aired Feburary 2, 2012 Written by Directed by Original Viewers 9.71 million Cast Previous Episode Next Episode

“If/Then” is the thirteenth episode of the eighth season of Grey’s Anatomy and the 161st produced episode of the series. It is also the 249th produced episode of the Grey’s Anatomy franchise. It was broadcast on February 2, 2012.

Meredith dreams of a world where mother never had Alzhiemers and a happy and shiny Meredith Grey and her bright and shiny life has severe repurcussions on the doctors. What if Ellis was the Chief instead of her husband, Richard? What if, without Meredith to come between them, Derek never seperated for Addison? What if Bailey never evolved from the meek intern she was? What if Callie and Owen’s found eachother instead of their soulmates Cristina and Arizona? What if?

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“The baby you have is the baby you were destined to have. It’s meant to be, that’s what all the adoption people tell you. Anyway, I’d like to think it’s true but everything else in the world seems completely random. What if one little thing I said or did could have made it all fall apart? What if I’d chosen another life for myself, or another person. We might have never found each other. What if I’d been raised differently? What if my mother had never been sick? What if I’d actually had a good father? What if? What if? What if?” “Your life is a gift; accept it, no matter how screwed up or painful it seems to be. You can wish you were someone else, you can hope that things will change. You can even force them to change. Some things are going to work out as if they were destined to happen, as if they were just meant to be” – Meredith Grey

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This episode’s title originated from the song If/Then, originally sung by Ras Kass.

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  • Although credited Kim Raver (Teddy) does not appear in this episode
    • Meredith, Zola, Cristina, Owen, Richard, Adele, Callie, Arizona and Derek all appear in the original timeline.
    • Original timeline counterparts of Alex, Bailey, Mark, Lexie, April, Jackson, Addison, Charles and Ellis do not appear in this episode.

Episode ReferencesEdit

  • Most of the music featured in the episode has appeared previously in the series
    • Portions for Foxes appeared in “A Hard Day’s Night” when Meredith leaves her house for her first day of residency
    • Ruby Blue appeared in “Make Me Lose Control” when Cristina suffered a miscarriage.
    • Fools In Love appeared in “Make Me Lose Control”
    • Into The Fire appeared in “A Hard Day’s Night”
    • You Wouldn’t Like Me appeared in “The First Cut Is The Deepest”

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Characters: Meredith Webber · Cristina Yang · Alex Karev · Miranda Bailey · Richard Webber · Callie Torres · Lexie Grey · Owen Hunt · Arizona Robbins · April Kepner · Jackson Avery · Derek Shepherd · Addison Montgomery Shepherd · Ellis Grey · Charles Percy · Izzie Stevens · George O’Malley
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It must be fun to be the showrunner of a series in its eighth season. Sure, your ratings probably aren’t what they used to be, but they’re likely decent. You’ve probably had a fairly stable production groove going for several seasons. Most importantly: There’s a good chance you get to do whatever you want without a network suit breathing down your neck. By creating one of ABC’s biggest hits of the decade—no matter its laundry-folding status now, Grey’s Anatomy was once both critically acclaimed and one of the biggest shows on television—Shonda Rhimes basically wrote herself a check to do whatever she wants, and she’s taking advantage of it.

As she should. Even though I had a significantly lower opinion of last season’s musical episode than Todd, it was still a fun and exciting thing for the show to try. Now it’s one year later and time for the show to try another trick: this time, an alternate reality-episode. Alternate-reality episodes have a much lower degree of difficulty than a musical, especially in a show with this many characters and this much history. All you have to do is turn characterization on its head, use obvious narrative parallels to the original material, and toss in a few in-jokes to make the audience chuckle. Easy, right?

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As it turns out, not so much. The problem is, even though alternate reality episodes are most often a lark designed to give the writers, actors, and viewers something fun and lighthearted, they still need to have a point. We still need to feel like that hour was worth something. When “If/Then” was over, all I felt was bored.

One premise informed the entire alternate reality: Who would Meredith Grey be if she had a different childhood? If her mother hadn’t gotten sick; if her father had been a good father? Would she be an entirely different person? It’s a perfect question to kick off a “What if?” sort of episode, and things start out promising. Meredith as a happy, smiley person doesn’t quite seem realistic enough even for an alternate-reality episode, but seeing her interact with her mother and the Chief as her father is amusing enough. Where things started to go off the rails for me was in the characterization of almost everyone else. Why would Alex be “nerdy” simply because Meredith was different? And would the Bailey we know be meek simply because Ellis Grey intimidated her? Sure, it was fun to see Justin Chambers be sunny, positive, and enthusiastic, just as it was kind of a hoot to see Chandra Wilson in dorky turtlenecks and braids, but did it ultimately make any sense?

I know, I know. I’m taking a silly episode of television that was designed to be silly far too seriously. Still, you can’t throw internal story logic out the window just because you’re trying something fun. The weird thing is, they got the people directly related to Meredith mostly right. Cristina very much could have become that competitive robot without Meredith’s influence in her life. Lexie might have gone off the deep end without the support she had growing up. I’m not sure Derek would have become a professional and personal joke without Meredith in his life—that seems to be giving a lot of credit to a woman who also caused him a good deal of misery along the way—but his easy connection with her at the end of the episode felt like a decent button on the proceedings.

Most of the problems occurred because the episode was simply trying to do too much. Each regular character got at least a moment, and most a full storyline. Plus, the return of beloved expats like Addison and less-beloved ones like Percy, along with dialogue jam-packed with a references to people like Izzie and George, simply left the show with too much content and not enough time to execute it all. Everything was so rushed and surface-level they barely had time to introduce their philosophical point, let alone make a case for it. Even the final voiceover telling us the moral of the story (“Your life is a gift. Accept it. No matter how screwed up or painful it appears to be.”) felt superimposed and almost divorced of the actual episode. The moral of the story was also a little bit confused. Was it about accepting life as it is? Or was it about how fate drives so much of your life you don’t have control over your own destiny? By alluding to the eventual union of Derek and Meredith, Cristina and Meredith, and Arizona and Callie even in alt world, the idea of fate loomed large over the episode, but was never really addressed.

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I suppose if all you wanted from the episode was to watch a few familiar faces act out of character, toss off a few references to the good old days, and then have everything return to normal at the end and ignore this ever happened, this was a perfect episode. (I still contend it wasn’t quite funny, polished, or entertaining enough to even meet these standards, but that’s neither here nor there.) However, I recently watched The O.C.’s alternate-reality episode, which takes a lot of the same ideas and executes them in a much better way, and I couldn’t help but compare the two while watching. Just because a show is meant to be fun doesn’t mean it shouldn’t have standards, and this episode just simply didn’t measure up.

Grey’s Anatomy is known for its dreamy doctors and steamy romances. Aside from the insane medical cases set to an unforgettable soundtrack, it has also been praised for its undeniably quotable dialogue. The series may have been named for Meredith Grey, but Cristina Yang has always been a fan favorite. The doctor was not only Meredith’s “person”, but she’s also responsible for some of the show’s best quotes.

Cristina was brilliant, no-nonsense and pretty funny for someone who rarely smiled. Even though she left the series back in season 10, the character is still sorely missed. Let’s take a look at 10 of the most memorable things that Dr. Yang has said over the years.

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10 “If you want crappy things to stop happening to you, then stop accepting crap and demand something more.”

This season two quote perfectly sums up Cristina Yang’s life philosophy. The doctor doesn’t accept crap from anyone, which is why so few people have ever dared to cross her. Cristina has always known who she is and absolutely refuses to apologize for it.

It’s these qualities that make Cristina such a beloved character. Fans never had to guess what she was thinking. They could always count on her to tell whoever she was talking to exactly how she felt. Cristina was always one of the strongest characters on Grey’s Anatomy. Her words here may not be eloquent, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not true.

9 “She’s my person. If I murdered someone, she’s the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor. She’s my person.”

Nothing else could explain the friendship between Meredith and Cristina quite so well as this quote that Cristina use to explain things to Burke in season 3. While the romance between Meredith and Derek was often at the center of Grey’s Anatomy, it’s easy to see that the heart of the show was always the relationship between Meredith and Cristina.

They were each other’s “person” for the entire ten years Cristina was on the show and there was amazing chemistry between Ellen Pompeo and Sandra Oh. Whether they were dancing it out or getting through to each other when no one else could, it’s safe to say that neither would’ve survived without the other.

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8 “Oh, screw beautiful. I’m brilliant. If you want to appease me, compliment my brain.”

One of Cristina Yang’s best qualities has always been her confidence. It’s not like she doesn’t have the skill to back it up. Of course, she would rather be complimented on her brain than her physical appearance. Many women would prefer to hear about how smart they are versus whether or not someone thinks they’re pretty.

Cristina said these words to Owen in season 7 and by that point, the guy really should have known better. He and Cristina had been involved for years, so he probably knew her well enough to know how such a compliment would go over.

7 “Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.”

Cristina said this to Meredith in reference to her relationship with Derek just before leaving Seattle for good in season 10. We’re still not over it. Mer and Der had built quite a life together, but it had gotten to a point where the former needed to start putting her own dreams ahead of the latter’s career. Cristina gave her some valuable life advice one last time.

Just because Derek was a dreamboat didn’t mean that Meredith should let him make decisions for her. The next season would be hard on Grey’s most famous couple. Sadly, by the time they worked it out, it would be too late.

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6 “I don’t have a sour puss. This is just my face.”

No matter how far we come, there still seems to be this idea that women need to smile all the time. When a patient asked for Cristina’s opinion in season 7, he made the mistake of referring to her as “the one with the sour puss on her face.” Cristina responded with this classic statement.

Luckily, she had April there to back her up, lest anyone think that she was kidding. Again, Cristina was a funny person, but it wasn’t too often that she cracked a smile. The patient really was just looking at her face. Cristina wasn’t in a bad mood. She was simply existing.

5 “Shut up. Dance it out.”

When asked about important life lessons learned from Grey’s Anatomy, many fans will tell you they learned the value of “dancing it out.” Whatever was going on in Meredith and Cristina’s life, they could always dance their troubles away, at least for a little while. It was even the way the two women spent their final moments together before Cristina moved away.

This comment was made to Meredith in season 4. She was attempting to talk to Cristina yet again about her troubles with Derek… while Cristina was desperately trying to dance out her own issues. Cristina’s response was completely understandable.

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4 “I can do hot in my sleep. I look hot in scrubs. I’m a hot person.”

There’s that trademark Yang confidence again. Cristina said this in season 2 before her first proper date with Burke. The two had been sleeping together but had yet to really see one another outside of the hospital. On top of worrying about what dress to wear, Cristina also had to think of stuff to actually say to him in a completely different context.

Thankfully, Cristina wasn’t really concerned over her appearance at all. Sure, she was nervous about the date, but in terms of looking good for Burke, let’s just say she was feeling pretty self-assured. Obviously, he was already crazy about her anyway.

3 Pretty good is not enough, I wanna be great.

Cristina said this in season 5 and it’s another quote that could’ve only really come from her. Not that everyone else on Grey’s wasn’t striving for greatness, but she simply wouldn’t accept anything less. For Cristina, in work and life in general, there was no other option.

It wasn’t just that Cristina wanted to be amazing that made it so. She worked hard and remained steadfast in her goals regardless of what life threw at her. We could all stand to think a little more like Cristina, especially in terms of what we’re capable of. Imagine how much you could accomplish with all that confidence.

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2 “Being aware of your crap and actually overcoming your crap are two very different things.”

Here’s some more life advice that Cristina gave to Meredith back in season 4. Self-awareness is indeed an important part of the process, but it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ve actually dealt with your issues. Meredith was aware of her “dark and twisty” nature for quite some time before she actually made some real progress.

It is true that you can’t fix something until you know it’s broken, but it’s still an uphill battle. Meredith was extremely lucky to have her person beside her for so much of her difficult Grey’s Anatomy journey. Both Meredith and fans would be delighted if Dr. Yang ever returned, even for just a single episode.

1 “Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely, and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next…”

“We can choose to be afraid of it, to stand there trembling not moving, assuming the worst that can happen or we can step forward into the unknown and assume it will be brilliant.”

Much like Cristina had words of wisdom for Meredith before she left town, Dr. Yang also had some advice for the viewer. Everything in Cristina’s life was about to change and that’s absolutely terrifying. She could’ve chosen to remain where she was out of fear, but instead, she left behind her job, the man she loved and her person behind when she moved out of Seattle.

What Cristina said is so true. Isn’t it better to assume that what comes next will be amazing rather than unbearable? If we imagine the former, it’s almost impossible to breathe, let alone make a move. Cristina persevered and so can we.

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10 ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ BFF Quotes For National Best Friends Day 2018 To Dedicate To Your Person

You might not have known that today was National Best Friends Day, but here it is upon us and it’s a great opportunity to recognize your best friend. With social media like another appendage for most of us, quotes are like gold for these occasions that tend to sneak up on us but still need to be celebrated. Thankfully, we have 14 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy and the epic friendship wisdom of their most memorable characters to draw from with these perfect BFF quotes from Grey’s Anatomy for National Best Friends Day.

While Grey’s Anatomy is ostensibly about medical cases and solving hospital mysteries, it’s also about heart-wrenching relationships and friendships. But unlike our real life heart wrenching relationships and friendships, the characters are actually eloquent when they argue or speak passionately. They don’t bumble their words like the rest of us when we’re filled with emotion; they come out with winning lines upon winning lines that make us all cry.

If you’re ready to celebrate National Best Friends Day today, look no further than this list of quotes from Grey’s Anatomy. Just be warned, you’ll probably want to go back and watch about 14 seasons of the show once you’re reminded of these epic friendships and characters.

1. “We’re friends, real friends. And that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally do decide to look back, I’ll still be here.” — Meredith Grey

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Like Meredith Grey and Christina Yang’s friendship, sometimes you have to walk away but know someone is waiting for you when you return. That’s the sign of a good friendship — that you can let each other take different roads but still be ready when the roads converge again.

2. “She’s my best friend. And right or wrong, she was here when you weren’t.” — Meredith Grey

Friends who are there with you through thick and thin — and through relationships that come and go — are hard to come by and worth celebrating.

3. “If I murdered someone, she’s the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor. She’s my person.” – Cristina Yang

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If there’s a single quote that everyone remembers from Grey’s Anatomy, it’s, “I’m your person.” Almost anyone will know exactly what it means.

4. “I think it’s important to take the time to tell the people you love how much you love them while they can hear you.” — Meredith Grey

One of the reasons Grey’s Anatomy is so heartbreaking is, of course, because so many people die on the show. But that’s what makes the close friendships so moving, and why we listen when Meredith tells us to let the people we love know we love them while we still can.

5. “Everyone needs help from time to time. Someone to look out for them. Make sure they’re OK.” –Izzie Stevens

If you’ve relied on your BFF for help (and who hasn’t?!), this is the quote to use to give her a special shoutout on National Best Friends Day. It’s also a quote you can use if you need to ask someone if they are OK.

6. “If there’s an upside to free falling, it’s the chance you give your friends to catch you.” — Meredith Grey

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It’s true, we find out who are friends really are when we really need them the most.

7. “My world is a better place with you in it.” — Richard Webber

Isn’t it wonderful when you have people in your life who genuinely make it a better place? Take the opportunity to thank that person today, she might not know she holds that big a place in your life.

8. “Friends are the family we choose.” — Meredith Grey

Sock this one away for Friends-giving as well. Friends are certainly the family we choose, and there’s no higher compliment than calling a friend family.

9. “You are the calm in the center of the chaos. You have been since I met you. And I need you.” — Miranda Bailey

Miranda was always above everyone else’s drama, which made her humanity — when she finally showed it — all the more compelling. Thanking someone for being the calm in the storm is a great place to start on National Best Friends Day.

10. “You’re my sister. You’re my family. You’re all I’ve got.” — Meredith Grey

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Meredith and Christina’s friendship in Grey’s Anatomy is made all the more sweet because of how much they rely on each other in very emotionally charged situations. It is television, after all. But some of us are lucky enough to have a friend who’s like a sister. Today’s the day to tell her that.

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Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely, and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next. We can choose to be afraid of it, to stand there trembling not moving, assuming the worst that can happen or we step forward into the unknown and assume it will be brilliant.

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I gotta go. You stay here. You are a gifted surgeon with an extraordinary mind. Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.

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Cristina: Wait, we’ll call each other at least twice a month and we’ll text each other all the time.
Meredith: I hate texting.
Cristina: Don’t let Owen get all dark and twisty. Take care of him. And Alex, take care of Alex. He needs to be mocked at least once a day or he’ll be insufferable. Don’t get on any tiny little planes that can crash or stick your hand in a body cavity that has a bomb in it or off your life to a gunman. Don’t do that. Don’t be a hero. You’re my person. I need you alive. You make me brave. Okay, now we dance it out.

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I can’t go. We have to dance it out. That’s how we finish.

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Cristina: Wait, Meredith.
Meredith: What do you need, an “I love you” or something? I love you. Call me when you get there.

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Cristina: I have to finish something here. Nothing feels finished. None of it feels finished. Owen and I… we’re split over something that hasn’t even happened and we never even split up. And you and I are not finished. George is dead and he’s gone and it’s supposed to you, me, and Alex and now nothing is finished. I am not finished.
Meredith: You don’t feel finished because this isn’t the end for you. There’s no finish line. There’s no end point. You just have to go.

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Meredith: Ew.
Cristina: I hate his face.

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Cristina: Did it work?
Bailey: Damn right it did.
Cristina: Up top!

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Meredith: Now, look me in the eye and tell me this isn’t punishment.
Cristina: Thank you for this muffin.

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What’s the point? What’s the point of anything?

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It was an impossible decision, and I stand by it.

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Owen: So, vodka is helping you write your Harper Avery acceptance speech.
Cristina: Tequila.

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You might have heard a thing or two about the that is just around the corner, which means I’ve personally reached the point where it’s time for everything related to the show to be written in all caps. (OMG. OMG. OMG. OMG.)

If you’ve already re-watched your favorite episodes and stalked your favorite Grey’s actors on Twitter and Instagram, then you may be looking to fill a void until the Sept. 27 two-hour premiere at 8 p.m. on ABC. For that, I offer you some of the best Grey’s Anatomy quotes that will fill you with feels (and give you some advice when you most need it).

1. When you want one essential piece of relationship advice:

“Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.” —Cristina Yang, season 10, episode 24

2. When you’re unlucky in love:

“Walk tall. All you can do is be brave enough to get out there. You fought. You loved. You lost. Walk tall.” —Mark Sloan, season 5, episode 12

3. When you need inspo for putting yourself out there:

“Okay, here it is. Your choice, it’s simple, her or me. And I’m sure she’s really great. But Derek, I love you, in a really, really big ‘pretend to like your taste in music, let you eat the last piece of cheesecake, hold a radio over my head outside your window,’ unfortunate way that makes me hate you … love you. So pick me. Choose me. Love me.” —Meredith Grey, season 2, episode 5

4. When you’re feeling alone in your heartbreak:

“Nobody wakes up thinking: ‘My world will explode today. My world will change.’ Nobody thinks that. But, sometimes, it happens. Sometimes, we wake up, we face our fears. We take them by the hand. And we stand there waiting, hoping, ready for anything.” —Meredith Grey, season 13, episode 24

5. When you’re feeling doubtful about just going for it:

“Knowing is better than wondering. Waking is better than sleeping, and even the biggest failure, even the worst, beats the hell out of never trying.” —Meredith Grey, season 1, episode 6

6. When you’re ready to give up on your goals:

“And if you can’t do it, if you aren’t willing to keep looking for light in the darkest of places without stopping, even when it seems impossible, you will never succeed.” —Amelia Shepherd, season 11, episode 11
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7. When you’re afraid to declare yourself:

“If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there.” —Mark Sloan, season 9, episode 2

8. When you’re having a really garbage day:

“Some days the whole world seems upside down. And then somehow, improbably, and when you least expect it, the world rights itself again.” —Meredith Grey, season 4, episode 10

9. When you want to swoon a bit:

“For a kiss to be really good, you want it to mean something. You want it to be with someone you can’t get out of your head, so that when your lips finally touch you feel it everywhere.” —Alex Karev, season 2, episode 7

10. When you’re struggling with your confidence game:

“Have some fire. Be unstoppable. Be a force of nature. Be better than anyone here, and don’t give a damn what anyone thinks. There are no teams here, no buddies. You’re on your own. Be on your own.” —Cristina Yang, season 4, episode 15

11. When you feel like you’ll never get over that breakup:

“It always feels like there is just one person in this world to love. And then you find somebody else, and it just seems crazy that you were ever worried in the first place.” —Lexie Grey, season 7, episode 16

12. When you’re feeling stuck:

“Picture the life you dreamed of living. The person you pictured being with. Picture the job you dreamed you’d have. Are you living the life you envisioned for yourself? Are you who you wanted to be when you grew up? … Or are you still dreaming of something even bigger?” —Meredith Grey, season 11, episode 18

13. When you need some perspective:

“The human life is made up of choices. Yes or no. In or out. Up or down. Live or die. Hero or coward. Fight or give in. I’ll say it again to make sure you hear me. The human life is made up of choices. Live or die. That’s the important choice. And it’s not always in our hands.” —Derek Shepherd, season 6 episode 24

14. When you’re struggling with a tough choice:

“It’s not hard. It’s painful but it’s not hard. You know what to do already. If you didn’t you wouldn’t be in this much pain.” —Miranda Bailey, season 2, episode 5

15. When you hate feeling afraid:

“It’s good to be scared. It means you still have something to lose.” —Richard Weber, season 4, episode 10

16. When you’re trying to find meaning during hard times:

“Doesn’t matter how tough we are, trauma always leaves a scar. It follows us home, it changes our lives, trauma messes everybody up, but maybe that’s the point. All the pain and the fear and the crap. Maybe going through all of that is what keeps us moving forward. It’s what pushes us. Maybe we have to get a little messed up, before we can step up.” —Alex Karev, season 5, episode 19

17. If you want inspo for your wedding vows:

“I want to marry you. I want to have kids with you. I want to build us a house. I want to settle down and grow old with you. I want to die when I’m 110 years old in your arms. I don’t want 48 uninterrupted hours. I want a lifetime.” —Derek Shepherd, season 4, episode 4 Caroline Shannon-Karasik Caroline Shannon-Karasik is a writer and mental health advocate based in Pittsburgh, PA.

For almost fifteen years, Grey’s Anatomy has pulled at our heartstrings. There have been scenes that have made us literally cry into our pillows (RIP McDreamy), others that have made us want to smash a coffee cup and some that have made us say “Awww.” As we follow the professional and personal lives of the doctors at Grey-Sloan Memorial Hospital, we can’t help but we feel as if we really know them. So when the show’s characters talk, it really feels like they’re talking to us. The writing is just too good– thank you Shonda Rhimes. Try not to cry as you read some of the show’s best quotables of all-time.

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“Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.” – Cristina Yang

“I love you, in a really really big, pretend to like your taste in music, let you eat the last piece of cheesecake, hold a radio over my head outside your window, unfortunate way that makes me hate you, love you. So pick me, choose me, love me.” – Meredith Grey

“You were like coming up for fresh air. It’s like I was drowning and you saved me.” –Derek Shepherd

“It always feels like there is just one person in this world to love. And then you find somebody else, and it just seems crazy that you were ever worried in the first place.” – Lexie Grey

“Please, don’t chase me anymore, unless you’re ready to catch me.” – Callie Torres

“Oh screw beautiful! I’m brilliant! If you want to appease me, compliment my brain.” – Cristina Yang

“The only time I don’t feel like a ghost is when you look at me, because when you look at me, you see me. You see me. This is me.” – Owen Hunt

“The problem is we are human. We want more than to just survive. We want to love.” – Lexie Grey

“Maybe I do believe it, all this ‘meant to be’ stuff. Why not believe it, really? Who doesn’t want more romance in their life? Maybe it’s just up to us to make it happen. To show up and be meant for each other.” – Meredith Grey

“You. You’re everything. I love you, and I’m not going to stop loving you. I can’t live without you. I don’t want to live without you, and I’m going to do everything in my power to prove it.” – Derek Shepherd

On Life

“At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them.” – Meredith Grey

“Don’t let fear keep you quiet. You have a voice so use it. Speak up. Raise your hands. Shout your answers. Make yourself heard. Whatever it takes, just find your voice, and when you do, fill the damn silence.” – Meredith Grey

“Yes, horrible things do happen. Happiness, in the face of all of that, that’s not the goal. Feeling horrible, and knowing that you’re not gonna die from those feelings, that’s the point.” – Katharine Wyatt

“Sometimes it’s good to be scared. It means you still have something to lose.” – Richard Webber

“Cause you never think that the last time is the last time. You think there will be more. You think you have forever, but you don’t.” – Meredith Grey

“We spend our whole lives worrying about the future, planning for the future, trying to predict the future, as if figuring it out will cushion the blow. But the future is always changing. The future is the home of our deepest fears and wildest hopes. But one thing is certain, when it finally reveals itself. The future is never the way we imagined it.” – Meredith Grey

“And if you can’t do it, if you aren’t willing to keep looking for light in the darkest of places without stopping, even when it seems impossible, you will never succeed.” – Amelia Shepherd

“There’s an end to every storm. Once all the trees have been uprooted. Once all the houses have been ripped apart. The wind will hush, the clouds will part, the rain will stop, the sky will clear in an instant. But only then, in those quiet moments after the storm, do we learn who was strong enough to survive it.” – Meredith Grey

“It doesn’t matter how tough we are. Trauma always leaves a scar. It follows us home, it changes our lives. Trauma messes everybody up. But maybe that’s the point. All the pain and the fear and the crap. Maybe going through all that is what keeps us moving forward. It’s what pushes us. Maybe we have to get a little messed up, before we can step up.” – Alex Karev

“Grief may be a thing we all have in common but it looks different on everyone. It isn’t just death we have to grieve. It’s life, it’s loss, it’s change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, it has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. That’s how you stay alive when it hurts so much you can’t breathe. That’s how you survive. By remembering that one day somehow, impossibly, it won’t feel this way. It won’t hurt this much. Grief comes in it’s own time for everyone in it’s own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can’t control it. The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes and let it go when we can.” – Meredith Grey

“We don’t get unlimited chances to have the things that we want, and this I know. Nothing is worse than missing an opportunity that could have changed your life.” – Addison Montgomery

“Yes or no. In or out. Up or down. Live or die. Hero or coward. Fight or give in. I’ll say it again to make sure you hear me. The human life is made up of choices. Live or die. That’s the important choice. And it’s not always in our hands.” – Derek Shepherd

“Why does it feel so good to get rid of things? To unload? To let go? Maybe because when we see how little we actually need to survive, it makes us realize how powerful we actually are. To strip down to only what we need. To hang on to only what we can’t do without. Not just to survive, but to thrive.” – Meredith Grey

“Bad things happen, but you have to move past it. Leave it behind. The sooner, the better. Or it’ll eat away at you and stop you from moving forward.” – Miranda Bailey

“It turns out sometimes you have to do the wrong thing. Sometimes you have to make a big mistake to figure out how to make things right. Mistakes are painful, but they’re the only way to find out who we really are.” – Denny Duquette

On Friendships

“We’re friends, real friends. And that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally do decide to look back, I’ll still be here.” – Meredith Grey

“Gratitude. Appreciation. Giving thanks. No matter what words you use, it all means the same thing. Happy. We’re supposed to be happy. Grateful for friends, family, happy to just be alive… whether we like it or not.” – Meredith Grey

“If there’s an upside to free falling, it’s the chance you give your friends to catch you.” – Meredith Grey

“If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that it only takes one person, one patient, one moment to change your life forever, to change your perspective, color your thinking.” – Cristina Yang

“If I murdered someone, she’s the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor.” – Cristina Yang

Jasmine Gomez Editorial Fellow Jasmine Gomez is the editorial assistant at Women’s Health and covers health, fitness, sex, culture and cool products.