Jeff bridges and wife

  • Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston met on the set of Rancho Deluxe in 1975.
  • The two had a very brief engagement before tying the knot in 1977.
  • The couple has three daughters together.

Although Jeff Bridges, 69, and his wife, Susan Geston, 66, have been happily married for 41 years, there was once a time when the actor was terrified of commitment. “I don’t know how it is for women or for other guys, but when I was young and in my 20s, I had a fear of marriage,” he wrote in Reader’s Digest back in 2006. “I thought it was a giant step toward death. So I did everything in my power to resist it—the idea was frightening to me, man.”

Those were his feelings, at least, until he came across his future spouse Susan, and he remembers that memorable moment like it was yesterday. He even carries a special photo of her from that day, which was captured the very first time they met.

Fargo, North Dakota native Susan was in Paradise Valley, Montana waiting tables to pay for college while Jeff was there to film scenes for the 1975 movie Rancho Deluxe. He saw her working and knew he had to ask her out. “I knew I was madly in love with my wife the minute I saw her,” Jeff told Conan O’Brien on his late night show.

When Jeff, then 24, finally suggested the two go on a date, Susan, then 20, quickly said no—but luckily, the two just happened to run into each other a few nights later. They spent the night dancing and hit it off. After filming wrapped, she moved back to California with Jeff.

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Despite his immediate infatuation, marriage didn’t follow for many years. “It was love at first sight, but getting to the altar was so tough,” he said. But when Susan gave him an ultimatum (she wanted to get married and start a family), he knew he didn’t want to lose her.

“I said, ‘Oh God, I can’t let this woman go,'” Jeff told OWN. “I had this vision of an old guy thinking there was this girl from Montana, man, why didn’t I marry her.” They were married just five days after he proposed on June 5, 1977.

While it required a leap of faith, it all worked out. “What you don’t know until you get married is that you think all the other doors close, which is true, but this doorway you open is a hallway lined with all these other brilliant doors—kids, deeper intimacy, adventures, and everything else,” Jeff said. After four decades of marriage, the couple has three daughters, Isabelle, 37, Jessica, 35, and Haley, 33. They’ve also worked on 50 movies together, according to the Daily Beast.

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“My marriage just gets better and better every year,” Jeff said. But that doesn’t mean it was always easy. The pair used to fight often, but eventually developed a simple solution for improving their communication. They chat often about what’s bothering them—letting the other talk until they’ve finished with no interruptions, according to AARP.

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Of course, despite a long career in Hollywood, Jeff doesn’t want his marriage to pan out like most celebrity unions do. Cheating and divorce just isn’t for him, he says. “If you change partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship,” he said. “My wife supports me and it makes me love her more.”

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Jeff Bridges won best actor at the Golden Globe and Screen Actor’s Guild (SAG) awards in 2009 for his portrayal of a country singer in Crazy Heart. After accepting his SAG award, Bridges honored his wife, Susan. Married for more than 30 years, the couple has three daughters. In 2006, Bridges wrote about his happy marriage for Reader’s Digest. Read his piece below.

I don’t know how it is for women or for other guys, but when I was young and in my 20s, I had a fear of marriage. I thought it was a giant step toward death. So I did everything in my power to resist it — the idea was frightening to me, man. Then I met Susan Geston in 1974 while I was shooting the film Rancho Deluxe in Montana, up in Paradise Valley at Chico Hot Springs, and I thought, Now, this is interesting.

Susan, who was from Fargo, North Dakota, the daughter of a professional couple (an architect and a university professor), was waitressing at the time. She was doing whatever needed to be done at the ranch, and I noticed her right away. Not only was she beautiful, she had a broken nose and two black eyes. I had this fantasy that she’d been beaten up by a boyfriend and that I was going to save her. Actually she had been in a car accident a few days earlier. I did what lots of guys do when they see a girl but don’t want her to see them: I held up a magazine, looked over the edge, and then ducked back behind it when she walked by. It took me all day to finally get up the nerve to ask her out. And she said no.

Just then the makeup man on the film snapped a photo of the two of us. About 15 years ago the guy sent it to me, saying, “Here you are asking a local girl for a date.” He didn’t know that that “local girl” became my wife. I still carry that photo around today. It’s one of my most prized possessions.

After she turned me down, I ran into Sue again at the film’s wrap party, and I asked her to dance. We danced together, and then I asked her to go look at some property with me. We drove to Yellowstone Ranch, and as I was looking at the land and looking back at Sue, I started thinking that I was looking at my wife-to-be. She was so relaxed and easy to be with. She had a fun attitude, and I had a feeling of being at home — a soothing feeling of being where I belonged.

When I got back to Los Angeles, I realized I had fallen in love with her in that week. It was shocking.

I hatched a plan that involved renting a motor home and enlisting the help of my best friend, David Greenwalt, who became the producer of the TV series Buffy the Vampire Slayer. The two of us drove from Los Angeles to Montana so I could “kidnap” the girl I was in love with. Sue agreed to leave the ranch to be with me, and eventually she came to live with me in L.A.

After a few years, she was ready to get married. When I mentioned my “marital death” theory, she laughed at me at first. Then she realized I wasn’t kidding. Sue wanted to move along in her life, make a commitment, have children. I wasn’t ready. So we ended up living apart for six months, though we still saw each other.

Then, when Sue got a job offer in Montana, it struck me that she was really leaving.
She actually talked to my mother about what she should do; they’d become the best of friends. And my mom, Dorothy — my own, wonderful, loving mother — counseled Sue to leave, forcing me to make a decision. My mother said, “Don’t stay with him.”

The pressure was on! Finally I came to my senses. I thought, If I let this girl go, I will always know she was the one. So I got down on my knees and asked Sue to marry me. She said, “Yes. When do you want to do it?” And I said, “This week.” Five days after I proposed, we tied the knot, on June 5, 1977.

Sue’s always given me room to be myself. Still, the first few years of our marriage were a challenge for me. There were some bumps, which we got through together. Then we had our first beautiful surprise when our oldest daughter, Isabelle, was born in 1981. You always hear people say that having kids changes everything, but you can’t fully realize it until you have children yourself.

This is when Sue showed how truly incredible she is. Isabelle became sick with a swelling of her brain when she was four years old. I was off doing 8 Million Ways to Die at the time, while my family was in Montana. Sue handled everything herself up to this critical point. When Isabelle was diagnosed with encephalitis, a viral brain infection, we didn’t know whether she was going to live or die. By then we also had our two-year-old toddler, Jessie, and Sue was seven months pregnant with our third daughter, Haley.

Even when Haley was born and Sue had an infant to care for on top of everything else, she pulled us all through the crisis. She drove back and forth to the hospital, and then to rehab with Isabelle, to take care of everyone and everything. She had enormous strength and focus, and was such a natural caregiver. I just looked at her in awe.

It took Isabelle a year and a half to recover. She had to learn to sit up, crawl and walk all over again, and Sue helped her, without complaint, every day. When times are tough like this, that’s when you gain strength and wisdom for life.

In the 28 years we’ve been married, we’ve done 50 movies together. I say “we” because Sue deserves a credit too. I’m the guy who makes the buck, but she’s the one who takes care of everything else. I really am more in love with her than ever.

In Hollywood, many marriages don’t last longer than the typical news cycle.

Actor Jeff Bridges is one Hollywood icon who has managed to make his love last for the past 40 years, and he says his relationship just keeps getting better. From the moment he spotted his future wife, Susan Geston, waiting tables at a small-town diner in Montana, he knew she was “the one.”

Jeff explained that he was initially nervous about making a commitment back in 1975, but when faced with the reality of losing her, he realized he had to bite the bullet. Doing so was the best decision he ever made. The couple have now defied all odds and maintained a loving marriage for more than four decades years. They have raised three daughters and have a grandchild, and their love is stronger than ever! In interviews, Jeff often shares his thoughts about what makes their marriage work:

“I fell in love with my wife like this. It was love at first sight. I knew she was the one. And that scared the hell out of me.”


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“We were together for about three years, and I couldn’t make a decision. So Sue … said, ‘I understand your situation, but I’m going back to Montana. My biological clock is going off and I want to start a family.’ And I thought, I can’t let this go…’ I had this image in my mind of a handful of sand and there’s one diamond in there, and that’s Sue, and I can’t let that thing go.”

“I knew I was madly in love with my life the minute I saw her, but getting to the altar was so tough. I kind of figured out a philosophy, I told my wife, ‘I figured it out; the fear of marriage is really a fear of death because it’s the end of the story. Marriage is a giant step in that direction. Here is the woman, there’s no more pretty girls, this is the only pretty girl right here. All those doors are closed.’”

“What you don’t know until you get married is that door that you stepped through is lined with all these brilliant doors; it’s filled with kids, deeper intimacies, adventures, and everything else.”

“Finally I got with the program and realized how wonderful marriage is. What a great opportunity … You open a doorway to the marriage hall, and it’s a hall filled with all these doors on either side, with kids, and all kinds of emotions that you’d never experience if you weren’t married: you know, joy and fear, and all that stuff. You’re going to feel all those things in a marriage, but the context of it; saying we’re going to do this together.”

“We’re going to learn and experience all kinds of joyful things and sorrowful things, but we’re going to do it together.”

“If you change your partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship.”

“Intimacy is what we’re all looking for — the kind of intimacy developed when someone is by your side through thick and thin. It’s kind of a big high.”

“My marriage just gets better and better every year.”

I think we can all learn a thing or two from this relationship. Happy anniversary, Jeff and Susan!

Susan Geston and Jeff Bridges Reveal Secrets to Long Marriage

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In an industry that’s notorious for spawning short, unstable relationships that ultimately end in dismay, it’s refreshing to see a Hollywood marriage that actually works. Married since 1977, Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston have what it takes to build a successful, long-lasting union.

She said ‘no’ the first time Jeff Bridges asked her out

The first time Bridges laid eyes on the blonde beauty who would become his wife, it was 1974, and they were on a movie set in Montana. He was there to portray Jack McKee in the 20th century western, Rancho Deluxe. Susan Geston was a 20-year old roadhouse waitress with two black eyes and a skinned nose. At first, Bridges assumed that she’d been injured by a brawling boyfriend. Later, he learned that Susan’s bruises were sustained in a car wreck a few days before.

Despite a movie resume that included star turns in The Last Picture Show, Thunderbolt and Lightfoot, and The Iceman Cometh, the 24-year old Bridges was too shy to say hello right away. Instead, he pretended to read a magazine while stealing peeks at the waitress from Fargo. Eventually, Jeff mustered the courage to ask Susan out, and she declined.

That could have been the end of the story, but it wasn’t. The pair met again at a wrap party for Rancho Deluxe, and when Jeff asked Susan for a dance, she accepted.

Love at second sight

The day after the Rancho Deluxe wrap party, Susan accompanied Jeff to view some Montana ranch property that he was interested in buying. Unimpressed by his Hollywood pedigree, Susan was charmed nonetheless by Bridges’ wit, intellect, and wicked sense of humor.

A few days later, Bridges returned to Los Angeles and told his best friend, future Buffy the Vampire Slayer producer, David Greenwalt, that he was in love. The two of them rented a motor home and made their way back to Montana where Susan happily hopped aboard and moved in with Bridges at his Malibu home.

An almost-perfect love story

Jeff admits to falling in love with his to-be wife right away, but the couple has not been without conflict. After three years of living together, Susan wanted to start a family, but didn’t want to do so without the commitment of marriage. Jeff had other ideas. As a young actor, Bridges often referred to marriage as “a step toward death.” Sensing his reticence to marry, Susan moved out, but the couple continued to date one another exclusively.

When Susan received a good job offer and almost moved back to Montana, Bridges realized that if he let her get away, he’d always wonder about her. On June 5, 1977, a week after he proposed, the lovebirds tied the knot and have been together ever since.

Bumps and kite strings

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While promoting his 2017 movie The Only Living Boy in New York, Bridges explained how he and Susan deal with the emotional bumps inherent to any long-term relationship:

“This is a bump. Now, let’s see if our love can grow to embrace this bump, and the bump can serve to create more intimacy between us.”

In 2014, Bridges told AARP magazine that he thinks of himself as a kite and Susan as the person who holds the string so he can safely soar. Jeff’s movie stand-in and long-time friend, Loyd Catlett, notes that Susan brings Jeff down to earth when he needs it. “In this business, you’ve got everybody telling you how great you are. In a loving way, she says, ‘All right, honey, let’s get down to reality.’ ”

Fighting fairly

During 40 years of wedlock, the couple has not been without conflict. Bridges revealed that the couple used to fight a lot before they developed a technique for defusing tension. Now, they know how to work things out without getting into a heated argument.

When the Bridges disagree, they sit face-to-face and talk things out. The trick is, says Bridges, to actively listen without interrupting while the other speaks their peace. When one talks and one listens, problems can be resolved without resorting to screaming or other rude, relationship-wrecking behavior.

40 years of fidelity

The massive divorce rate in the entertainment industry supports the notion that when constantly surrounded by pretty young actresses, married male actors are apt to cheat, explains Psychology Today. This has not been the case with Jeff Bridges.

“If you change partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship,” he told Country Living magazine. “My wife supports me, and it makes me love her more.”

Before “The Dude” got married, he worried that marriage would be a mistake. Now, he says that the longer he and Susan are married, the more they grow together. “What they don’t tell you about marriage is that it just keeps getting better on all levels –emotion, sex, intimacy.”

“Intimacy is what we’re all looking for,” added Bridges. “It’s kind of a big high.”

They’ve been married for over 40 years, but Jeff Bridges remembers meeting his wife Susan Geston like it was yesterday. He even carries a special photo of her in his wallet, which captures the very first moment they met.

Fargo, North Dakota native Geston was in Paradise Valley, Montana waiting tables to pay for college while Jeff was there to film scenes for the 1975 movie “Rancho Deluxe.” He saw her working and knew he had to ask her out.

“I knew I was madly in love with my wife the minute I saw her,” Bridges told Conan O’Brien on his late night show.

When Bridges, then 24, finally suggested the two go on a date, Geston, then 20, quickly said no — but luckily, the two just happened to run into each other a few nights later. They spent the night dancing and hit it off. After filming wrapped, she moved back to California with Bridges.

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Despite his immediate infatuation, marriage didn’t follow for many years. “It was love at first sight, but getting to the altar was so tough,” he said. Bridges was afraid of the commitment marriage required, but when Geston gave him an ultimatum (she wanted to get married and start a family), he knew he didn’t want to lose her.

“I said, ‘Oh God, I can’t let this woman go,'” Bridges told OWN. “I had this vision of an old guy thinking there was this girl from Montana, man, why didn’t I marry her.” They were married just five days after he proposed in 1977.

While it required a leap of faith, it all worked out. “What you don’t know until you get married is that you think all the other doors close, which is true, but this doorway you open is a hallway lined with all these other brilliant doors—kids, deeper intimacy, adventures and everything else,” Bridges said.

After four decades of marriage, the couple now has three daughters and one grandchild. They’ve also worked on 50 movies together, according to the Daily Beast.

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“My marriage just gets better and better every year,” Bridges said. But that doesn’t mean it was always easy. The pair used to fight often, but eventually developed a simple solution for improving their communication. They chat often about what’s bothering them — letting the other talk until they’ve finished with no interruptions, according to AARP.

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Of course, despite a long career in Hollywood, Bridges doesn’t want his marriage to pan out like most celebrity unions do. Cheating and divorce just isn’t for him, he says. “If you change partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship,” he said. “My wife supports me and it makes me love her more.”

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They’ve been married for 40 years, but Jeff Bridges, 68, remembers meeting his wife Susan Geston, 64, like it was yesterday. He even carries a special photo of her in his wallet, which captures the very first moment they met.

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Fargo, North Dakota native Susan was in Paradise Valley, Montana waiting tables to pay for college while Jeff was there to film scenes for the 1975 movie Rancho Deluxe. He saw her working and knew he had to ask her out. “I knew I was madly in love with my wife the minute I saw her,” Jeff told Conan O’Brien on his late night show.

When Jeff, then 24, finally suggested the two go on a date, Susan, then 20, quickly said no—but luckily, the two just happened to run into each other a few nights later. They spent the night dancing and hit it off. After filming wrapped, she moved back to California with Jeff.

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Despite his immediate infatuation, marriage didn’t follow for many years. “It was love at first sight, but getting to the altar was so tough,” he said. Jeff was afraid of the commitment marriage required, but when Susan gave him an ultimatum (she wanted to get married and start a family), he knew he didn’t want to lose her.

“I said, ‘Oh God, I can’t let this woman go,'” Jeff told OWN. “I had this vision of an old guy thinking there was this girl from Montana, man, why didn’t I marry her.” They were married just five days after he proposed in 1977.

While it required a leap of faith, it all worked out. “What you don’t know until you get married is that you think all the other doors close, which is true, but this doorway you open is a hallway lined with all these other brilliant doors—kids, deeper intimacy, adventures, and everything else,” Jeff said. After four decades of marriage, the couple now has three daughters and one grandchild. They’ve also worked on 50 movies together, according to the Daily Beast.

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“My marriage just gets better and better every year,” Jeff said. But that doesn’t mean it was always easy. The pair used to fight often, but eventually developed a simple solution for improving their communication. They chat often about what’s bothering them—letting the other talk until they’ve finished with no interruptions, according to AARP.

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Of course, despite a long career in Hollywood, Jeff doesn’t want his marriage to pan out like most celebrity unions do. Cheating and divorce just isn’t for him, he says. “If you change partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship,” he said. “My wife supports me and it makes me love her more.”

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Jeff Bridges has had an incredibly celebrated acting career. From hit films like The Big Lebowski and Crazy Heart to three Golden Globe wins and a Best Actor Oscar, he’s certainly cemented himself as one of the greats in the business. After 40 years of marriage, it seems that Bridges and his wife Susan Geston have it all figured out, even after years of red carpet appearances. The fact that it was love at first sight makes their love story that much sweeter.

It all started when Fargo, North Dakota native Susan was in Paradise Valley, Montana waiting tables to pay her way through college. She never would have dreamed that she would be swept off her feet by a movie star. Bridges was in town filming 1975 movie Rancho Deluxe and while filming a scene at a place called Chico Hot Springs, he saw Geston for the first time. He just knew he had to ask her out. At the time, she had two black eyes from a car accident, but that just intrigued Bridges even more.

Actor Jeff Bridges and his wife Susan arrive at The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences 2009 Governors Awards, Saturday, Nov. 14, 2009, in Los Angeles. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello)

Geston turned him down, but fate prevailed because they ran into each other again and ended up dancing all night. Bridges immediately fell in love and Geston moved back to Los Angeles with him after filming wrapped. They were really young, Bridges just 24 and Geston 20, but when you know, you know.

Bridges told Good Housekeeping it took him two years to get with the program, lose the cold feet and fear of marriage and just propose to the love of his life.

“Mostly the issue was losing my freedom. After two years of ambivalence, I finally got up the courage to ask Sue to marry me, with the secret assurance in mind that I could always get a divorce. Thank God I finally got with the program. It’s true, you close one door, but the door you open is a long hallway lined with more incredible doors — like children, grandchildren, deeper intimacy with your wife, and so many other things that would not be available to you without marriage. Frightening as it was for me, there was also the sense of deeply opening my heart.”

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Their relationship prevailed over the years, despite the fact that many relationships in Hollywood fail. For Bridges, he wasn’t interested in cheating or divorce. He told Reddit that the hardest part is just schedules associated with filming.

“The toughest thing about making movies is being apart from your family. One of the things I try my best to do is call my wife every day, to keep up to speed with what’s going on in her life. And tell her what’s going on with mine. Often when you’re apart from your loved one like that for so long, your connection kind of atrophies unless you keep engaged, even if it’s small everyday kind of stuff.”

The happy couple shares three daughters, Isabelle Annie, Jessica Lily Bridges and Haley Roselouise Bridges. They even have a granddaughter named Grace. Bridges told Jimmy Kimmel that he prefers to go by “Dude-pa” which is fitting considering he’s famously known as “The Dude.”

Loyd Catlett, Bridges longtime friend and stand-in describes their relationship perfectly to AARP. “Sue brings Jeff down to earth. In this business, you’ve got everybody telling you how great you are. In a loving way, she says, ‘All right, honey, let’s get down to reality.'”

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Jeff Bridges has one of the longest marriages in Hollywood. Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston met while Jeff was filming the movie Rancho Deluxe in 1975. He was only 24 years old at the time. They got married after a short engagement in 1977 and now have three daughters together.

Jeff is currently 69 years old and Susan is 66. They have been married for 41 years and say that their marriage gets better with age. Jeff has said that in his early 20s, he was terrified of commitment and marriage. However, when he met Susan, everything changed.

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How The Beautiful Couple Met

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Jeff was in Fargo, North Dakota to film the movie Rancho Deluxe. He saw Susan while eating at a restaurant where Susan was waiting tables to pay for college. He said he knew right then and there that she was the one. It was love at first sight, for Jeff anyway. He asked Susan out, but she said no at first. However, they ran into each other a few nights later and spent the night dancing. This changed Susan’s mind.

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After Jeff was done the filming, Susan actually moved back to California with him, even though they had only known each other for a short time. He eventually proposed on June 5, 1977, and they got married just five days later. The couple has stayed together for over four decades. They have three daughters. Isabelle is 37, Jessica is 35, and Haley is 33.

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Just like every couple, their marriage is not without the occasional fight. However, Jeff has said that they developed a solution to improving communication so they don’t fight as often. They will let each other chat about what’s bothering them without any interruptions. It sounds like a good solution!

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According to Country Living, Jeff said this about most Hollywood relationships, “If you change partners every time it gets tough or you get a little dissatisfied, then you don’t get the richness that’s available in a long-term relationship. My wife supports me and it makes me love her more.”

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Here is a clip of Jeff Bridges in Rancho Deluxe during the time period Susan and Jeff met *warning: there is some strong language at the end of the clip*:

His most prized possession isn’t his Oscar. His wife isn’t an actress. But Jeff Bridge’s story of meeting his wife is straight out of a Hollywood romance— but also SO much better. Incredibly, that story gained a lovely epilogue ten years after it happened, when the beautiful item Bridges calls his prized possession came into his life.

Since he’s been acting in Hollywood since the 1950’s, you could be forgiven for assuming a few things about the acting legend. After all, he started his career at the tender age of two, and comes from the legendary Bridges acting family. He’s been nominated for an Academy Award six times and won once, for his role in 2009’s Crazy Heart. He’s worked with such legendary people as Jessica Lange, John Huston, Cybil Shepherd, John Goodman, and countless others. But Bridges is more like the rest of us then you would assume. The item he counts as most dear to his heart isn’t Lebowski’s robe, a True Grit prop gun or his Best Actor Oscar. And while he met his wife, Susan Beston, while he was filming a movie, she wasn’t a part of the crew or a fellow actor. She was simply a Montana girl with two black eyes and a broken nose, and he was simply smitten.

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The better-than-made-for-the-movies story is this: In 1975, while shooting a scene for Rancho Deluxe in a place called Chico Hot Springs, outside of Livingston, Montana in Paradise Valley, Bridges found that he couldn’t take his eyes off a “gorgeous” woman with two black eyes and a broken nose. After working up his courage – and getting busted for staring a few times! – he walked up and asked Susan out. Her answer? A truly unscripted one: No!

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Bridges still had some hope, however, because Susan mentioned that – since Chico Hot Springs was such a small town – they might bump into each other again. A few nights later, her prediction came true, when they ran into each other in a bar and danced the night away. “And that was about it, man,” says Bridges. “I mean, I was head-over-heels— I was head-over-heels the first time I saw her.”

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Romances in Hollywood – and even romances outside of Hollywood, too – don’t seem to last that often, especially between people who are in the business and those who are not, but Bridges and his wife are the exception that prove the rule. Listening to him tell the story is almost too charming, but it’s worth it to hear so obviously in his voice how in love with her he still is, and how crystal clearly he remembers seeing and meeting her for the first time. Just listen to him tell OWN the story, and to find out the incredible addendum that happened about ten years into their marriage.

Isn’t that incredible? We all have photos of the early days of our relationships with our husbands and wives, but to have a picture of the actual first words you spoke to each other? That’s really something special. No wonder Bridges calls those photos his most prized possession.

What do you think of this story? Are you a fan of Jeff Bridges and his work? Do your remember the moment you met the love of your life, and do you even have pictures of the moment? Share your own stories of romance with us!

Jeff Bridges Shares The Unlikely Trick That’s Made His Marriage Last For Over 40 Years

The secret to a successful marriage is never just one thing. What may work for one couple may backfire for another, so taking the same cookie-cutter approach to keeping a relationship strong is sure to end in disaster. Every marriage is one of a kind, and so to make one work, your approach has to be just as unique.

Even for a legendary Hollywood icon like Jeff Bridges, it took more than just a few “I love yous” to keep his marriage together. Now, after more than four decades with his wife Susan, Jeff has finally come forward with the secret to his lasting relationship and he’s spilling all the details.

In an industry notorious for revolving-door relationships, Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston are an exception to the rule. Their marriage has weathered even the toughest of Hollywood storms, though their 42-year journey together had a pretty unusual beginning.

Born in Los Angeles California, on December 4, 1949, Jeff Bridges seemed destined to be a star. His father, Lloyd Bridges, was already a well-respected actor, and in 1951, Jeff made his feature film debut in The Company She Keeps at the age of two.

Jeff went on to appear in many notable projects in the following years, though his big break came in 1971 when he landed the role of Duane Jackson in The Last Picture Show. At just 22, he was nominated for the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor.

But as he’d soon find out, his role in 1975’s Rancho Deluxe was his most significant yet. His performance didn’t earn him any award nominations, but it was during this time that he came across something even better: the love of his life.

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While filming scenes at a Montana Roadhouse, Jeff couldn’t help but notice a young woman waiting on a few of the tables nearby. “I knew I was madly in love with the minute I saw her,” he once recalled to Conan O’Brien.

That waitress, of course, was Susan Geston, a native of Fargo, North Dakota, working to pay her way through college. But even with a Hollywood pedigree like his, Jeff was still too shy to talk to her at first.

In fact, Jeff actually hid behind a magazine during their first encounter, stealing quick glances at her as she waited on customers. Finally, Jeff managed to muster up the courage to ask her out — and, believe it or not, she said no!

This was surely a huge blow to Jeff’s ego, and with the film wrapping in the coming days, a life with Susan seemed no more than wishful thinking. Well, Jeff’s wish wound up coming true, as after Susan showed up at the Rancho Deluxe wrap party, the two got to talking and hit it off.

Their relationship blossomed, and after a quick return trip to LA, Jeff made his way back to Montana for Susan. After loading up a rented RV, the couple then headed for the west coast, choosing to settle down at Jeff’s Malibu home.

Several years passed, and Jeff was content to remain in a committed relationship — Susan, however, wanted more. But when faced with the prospect of marriage and starting a family, Jeff wasn’t exactly thrilled with the idea.

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“I don’t know how it is for women or for other guys, but when I was young and in my 20s, I had a fear of marriage,” he told Reader’s Digest. “I thought it was a giant step toward death. So I did everything in my power to resist it — the idea was frightening to me, man.”

With the couple at odds over their future, Susan opted to move out, though the couple continued to date one another exclusively. But when Susan got a job offer that threatened to take her back to Montana, Jeff came to an immediate realization: she was, and always would be, the “one.”

“I said, ‘Oh God, I can’t let this woman go,’” Jeff recounted in a 2015 interview with OWN. “I had this vision of an old guy thinking there was this girl from Montana, man, why didn’t I marry her.”

And so, not wanting to become the man from his vision, Jeff did just that. On June 5, 1977 – just five days after he’d proposed – Jeff and Susan tied the knot.

As expected, the transition to married life wasn’t an easy one for Jeff, and the early days of his marriage with Susan weren’t all sunshine and rainbows. Gradually, however, Jeff began to realize that married life wasn’t the “death trap” he once envisioned it to be.

“What you don’t know until you get married is that you think all the other doors close, which is true, but this doorway you open is a hallway lined with all these other brilliant doors — kids, deeper intimacy, adventures, and everything else,” Jeff explained.

This newfound perspective also helped Jeff and Susan deal with disagreements, of which there were many in the early years of their marriage. According to Jeff, the couple learned to hear each other out, sitting face to face and letting the other speak uninterrupted so their feelings could be acknowledged.

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It seems this method has worked wonders for their relationship, as 42 years later, Jeff and Susan have built an incredible life together. The couple has three adult daughters – Isabelle, Jessica, and Haley – and one grandchild to go with them.

But perhaps the most surprising success that the actor attributes to his wife is his legendary film career. While it was the gruff, long-haired Jeff that captivated us on screen, it was Susan’s work behind the scenes that really made it all happen.

“In the years we’ve been married, we’ve done 50 movies together,” Jeff wrote. “I say ‘we’ because Sue deserves a credit too. I’m the guy who makes the buck, but she’s the one who takes care of everything else. I really am more in love with her than ever.”

Surprisingly, Jeff and Susan aren’t the only couple to have built a lasting love in the glare of the spotlight. For over 30 years, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have been the poster couple for Hollywood relationships built to last. But the early days of Kurt and Goldie weren’t exactly your typical start to a decades-old love story, either.

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They met while shooting 1968’s The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band, when Goldie was 23 and Kurt was just 17. It wouldn’t be love at first sight for the young actors, however, as the two shared no screen time and soon went their separate ways.

Yet Goldie’s work on the Disney musical wasn’t all for naught, as her performance soon attracted the attention of major Hollywood producers. Making the switch from go-go dancer to full-time actress, Goldie’s first major film role in Cactus Flower earned her the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress in 1969.

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Meanwhile, Kurt put his silver-screen dreams on hold to pursue his lifelong passion: baseball. The young switch-hitter built a solid career for himself with the Class AA El Paso Sun Kings, though an injury in 1973 forced him into retirement.

It was then back to the acting game for Kurt, who found success in television this time around. Not only did his leading role in the 1979 biopic Elvis earn him an Emmy nomination, but it also led him to meet his first wife, Season Hubley.

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By this time, Goldie had already been divorced once, though she soon found love again with musician Bill Hudson. The two wed in 1976, welcoming a son, Oliver, later that year and a daughter, Kate, in 1979.

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But it seemed these marriages weren’t built to last, as Goldie and Hudson divorced in ’82; Kurt and Hubley followed suit a year later. Both newly single, it wouldn’t be long before the two stars found their way back to one another for good.

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Sixteen years after their first film together, Goldie and Kurt were formally introduced after being cast in 1984’s Swing Shift. Kurt was smitten from the start, and Goldie, who was just as charmed, decided she’d like to get to know her co-star a little better off set.

The two had their first date at The Playboy Club, swing-dancing the night away as a kind of “field research” for their upcoming film. It was the beginning of something special for the two stars, yet their undeniable chemistry wasn’t the only selling point of the relationship.

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As Oliver and Kate began spending more time with Kurt, it was clear he was ready to be the father that Bill Hudson never was. “What really got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them,” said Goldie. “He was amazing with them.”

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But not only did Kurt become a father to Goldie’s children, he also became one for real when the couple welcomed Wyatt Russell in 1986. With Kurt’s son from his first marriage, Boston, in the mix, the blended Russell-Hawn family was making headlines everywhere.

With all eyes on Hollywood’s newest power couple, it was only a matter of time before they were paired up once again on the big screen, this time for 1987’s Overboard. The rom-com was a box-office success, proving that Kurt and Goldie were a match made in heaven both on screen and off… or were they?

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By the late ’90s, rumors had begun to swirl that all was not well with the happy couple. Both Kurt and Goldie had been spotted in the company of others, and with no rings on their fingers, people just had to know: had they split, or had this been an open relationship all along?

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The answer, it seemed, was neither, though Goldie never shied away from discussing the temptations that made her relationship with Kurt rocky at times: “I’m sure I’ve been party to it, and Kurt’s been – we’re all normal this way…There is an elasticity to the relationship. Otherwise it’s going to break, just like a rubber band.”

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Both Goldie and Kurt attributed the longevity of their relationship to the fact that they’ve never gotten married. “Basically, once you’ve done it once, once you’ve done it twice, you realize that marriage, or the act of marrying has nothing to do with success,” Goldie said.

This belief, it seems, was also one shared by their children, who have spoken out often in support of their parents’ relationship. In fact, the couple once approached their kids to ask if they should get married, to which the entire family replied with a resounding “no.”

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Still, that didn’t stop Kurt and Goldie from making their union “official” by having a non-wedding ceremony. And if you ever catch a glance at Goldie’s ring finger, you’ll spot a band of dazzling diamonds, no doubt given to her by her lifelong love.

For Kurt and Goldie, however, marriage and children never defined them. In Goldie’s words, “being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different, not having to agree on everything, learning how to deal with not agreeing,” is what makes their relationship so special.

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Married or not, Kurt and Goldie will always be together — or at least, on the Hollywood Walk of Fame they will be. The two were given side-by-side stars in a joint ceremony, though it was what Kurt said to Goldie on that day that truly spoke to the depth of their relationship.

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“To you, I owe my wonderful life,” Kurt said to her as the teary-eyed actress looked on. “Simply put, Goldie, I cherish you, and all the stars in the sky or on the boulevard can’t hold a candle to that.”

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Kurt and Goldie are certainly a rare case, but, surprisingly, they aren’t the only Hollywood superstars to have made a long-term relationship work. Sam Elliott, for example, also found his happily ever after, though his path to his one true love wasn’t an easy one.

With his bushy mustache and a voice as deep as the Grand Canyon, Sam Elliott is a Hollywood star like no other. But for all the appearances he’s made on the big screen, he’s surprisingly tight-lipped about his personal journey.

Despite being born in California, Sam always identified with Texas, where his family lived for generations. Perhaps foreshadowing his eventual proclivity for Western roles, he even had an ancestor who fought at the Battle of the Alamo.

As a boy, Sam harbored dreams of making it big in show business, though he knew his salt-of-the-earth parents wouldn’t approve. Once he reached his college years, however, Sam decided to go for it.

He won the lead in a production of Guys and Dolls, which earned him rave reviews in the local press. Sam hoped this would legitimize his career aspirations in the eyes of his family. Still, his father told him that acting was nothing but a dead end.

Sadly, Sam’s father never believed in his dream. He died of a sudden heart attack in 1966, just as Sam was about to wrap up his collegiate studies. The tragedy made the aspiring actor reconsider his entire life plan.

While he would always crave closure with his family, Sam ultimately decided to chase his dream and move to Los Angeles. He later reflected, “I think on some levels that was either hard on me or made me more focused in my resolve to have a career.”

Job offers didn’t immediately pop up for Sam. He worked in construction just to pay the bills, but this gig proved more fruitful than he expected. Sam got a job working on the house of an assistant director, who introduced him to contacts at Universal Pictures.

He made his first feature film appearance in 1969’s classic Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, though it was just a bit part. He admired the female lead, Katherine Ross, from afar. However, the two of them never met during that production.

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Subsequently, Sam racked up a number of TV credits, and this time — thankfully — all his characters had names. He became a familiar face to audiences with appearances in shows like Mission: Impossible. Still, he was hungry for something bigger.

Fighting hard for a lead film role, Elliot finally got his breakthrough in the 1976 drama Lifeguard. It didn’t make any critics’ all-time-greats list, but it did raise Sam’s status. It also brought an old figure back into his life.

During the production of 1978’s The Legacy, Sam came full circle with Katherine Ross. Though they never shared a scene on Butch Cassidy, this film had them spending every waking moment together. Their chemistry wasn’t only for the cameras either.

Sam and Katherine grappled with romantic feelings for each other, but it was complicated. She was married to an assistant director named Gaetano Lisi, after all. Katherine would have to make a choice.

Fortunately for Sam, Katherine was willing to risk it all. She divorced Gaetano in 1979, right as the two of them entered a relationship. They tied the knot in 1984. It was Sam’s first marriage, but Katherine’s fifth!

Unlike Katherine’s past unions, however, this marriage was built to last. That year, they also welcomed a daughter, Cleo Rose, into the world. Meanwhile, Sam’s career really started to heat up.

Going toe-to-toe with Cher, Sam earned rave reviews for his turn as a biker with a heart of gold in Mask. He showed that he really had range, yet found himself pigeonholed as certain characters throughout the ’80s and ’90s.

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Maybe it was just because he was a natural cowboy, but Sam found his way into an overwhelming amount of Westerns. Many were huge hits like Tombstone, but Sam still felt frustrated by the lack of originality in the Hollywood machine.

Was this really what he risked his father’s disapproval for, Sam wondered. He made an effort to go more against type, or at least get involved in more offbeat projects. Film fans will always love him, for example, for his part in the Coen Brothers’ The Big Lebowski.

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But overall, Sam realized his commitment to be himself — and to his beloved stache — was costing him big-time roles. He drew praise for his part as General Thunderbolt Ross in Hulk, for instance, but later got cut out of Marvel’s Cinematic Universe.

Now on the wrong side of 70, Elliott couldn’t help but feel that he still had more to offer. He thought his talents were fresher than ever, though showbiz wasn’t known for its friendliness toward aging actors. Still, his renaissance was just around the corner.

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In 2018, Elliott appeared with Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga in the third-time remake A Star Is Born. Critics and audiences alike adored the film, and Sam ended up receiving an Oscar nomination for Best Supporting Actor.

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Although he didn’t get the little gold statue, in the end, Sam still felt as blessed as ever. He had a loving wife, a wonderful daughter, and the acclaim to go in any direction he wanted for the rest of his career.

Sam Elliott had some great behind-the-scenes stories from A Star Is Born, too. Bradley Cooper’s country twang was convincing because he studied Sam’s voice and accent way before he asked him to portray his older brother in the film.

It’s no wonder Elliot was drawn to A Star is Born — there just seemed to be a bit of magic in Cooper’s creation. For instance, the love scenes between Jackson and Ally are cute, but the most adorable thing about A Star Is Born might be Charlie, the pup they adopt together. Charlie is actually Bradley’s real dog!

Just like Ally, Lady Gaga felt pressured to become more of a pretty pop icon than she originally wanted. She broke through with singles like “Just Dance,” but her abilities are much wider than just catchy pop songs. Of course, now she can do what she wants!

As co-writer, director, producer, and lead actor, Bradley surely got to have a say when it came to casting. He hired several of his friends, including comedian Dave Chappelle. While he doesn’t joke around that much, he still provides comic relief.

Were you crying along with Ally’s tribute to her husband at the end of the film? Gaga had just learned that her longtime friend had died of cancer, so she channeled all her emotion into the scene. The tears you see are real.

There was almost no CGI used in the filming of A Star Is Born, so the crowds at all Ally’s and Jackson’s concerts are real. They actually performed the songs live at several festivals to get the shots, and the music-loving crowd definitely didn’t mind!

As a small shoutout to the 1976 version of the movie, Jackson traces Ally’s nose just like Kris Kristofferson did with Barbra Streisand. He admires her nose, about which Ally (and Gaga, and Streisand) used to feel pretty insecure. Can you handle the intimacy?

Bradley Cooper is definitely a fan of foreshadowing. The first example happens when Ally sings to Jackson in the parking lot: she is filmed from a low angle, looking strong, while he is looking up at her in admiration, signifying her future stardom.

If you wondered why the scene where Jackson meets Ally is set in a drag bar, you weren’t the only one. Gaga has received tremendous support from the LGBT+ community throughout her career, so the location was set to honor her queer fans.

We all knew Lady Gaga is a musical powerhouse, but who knew Bradley Cooper was so multi-talented as well!? He worked incredibly hard to sharpen his vocal cords, and the two made a smashing hit soundtrack that we can’t stop listening to.

As a tiny tribute to former Star Is Born star, Judy Garland, Ally hums “Somewhere Over The Rainbow,” which Judy sings in The Wizard Of Oz. It also signifies Ally’s hopes and dreams despite her manager trying to bring her down.

Not only has Gaga gone through similar situations as Ally, Bradley knew all too well what it was like to be in Jackson’s shoes. He struggled with substance addiction and thoughts of suicide for years. Luckily he has been clean for nearly 15 years!

“Hey!” “What?” “I just wanted to take another look at you.” The most iconic line of the movie that melted our hearts is wonderfully delivered, but not originally written! It appears in every version of the film, and it’s magical each time around.

Why “La Vie En Rose”? A lot of viewers were unable to understand Ally’s French performance that makes Jackson swoon, but it’s a very significant song. Lady Gaga sang it during the first time Bradley ever saw her sing live, and that’s when he knew he needed to cast her.

Does Jackson Maine remind you of anyone? Since Bradley is not a rockstar himself, he based his character on The Boss, Bruce Springsteen. He also followed Eddie Vedder on tour for a bit to add that to the mix.

Perhaps the sweetest scene between our star-crossed lovers is when Ally applies makeup to Jackson in the tub. There is a tub scene in the Barbra Streisand version, as well as a little man-makeover. Of course, both leads can rock a bare face as well as some good liner.

In case you missed it, there is a big foreshadowing moment early in the movie. Before Jackson meets Ally, he sees a billboard for suicide prevention, complete with nooses and all. He was depressed before she came into his life, and their love was only a temporary relief.

On a happier note, Bradley Cooper’s real-life hearing doctor got the opportunity of a lifetime when he was asked to basically play himself in the movie. It was a quick little scene, but this doc surely never thought he’d make it to the big screen!

None of the drag queens’ lines were scripted. During the scene where Jackson goes backstage to talk to Ally, he asked the real queens to just be themselves, and act as they usually would. So, every joke they make at Jackson’s expense is their true sense of humor!

The wedding scene touched all of our hearts, but did you get a good look at Ally’s dress? There’s a reason why it’s so ’70s style, unlike the rest of her wardrobe. The dress is in honor of Barbra Streisand’s personal clothes, which were used for her version of the film.