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8 tips for kissing toward a more passionate marriage

What’s it mean to “kiss like you’re married”? A routine, lifeless, cool peck? Or a passionate, erotic, steamy smooch?

The first response describes stereotypically dull, post-honeymoon marital intimacy. The second depicts electrifying, full-body expressions of lifelong sensuality between husband and wife.

Sadly, reality confirms the stereotype: Average marital kissing habits are dry – and destructive.

In Kiss Me Like You Mean It, Dr. David Clarke bluntly writes that passionate kissing fades in 100 per cent of marriages. Supporting this statistic, a recent British Heart Foundation survey found that one in five married couples goes up to one week without kissing. And for 40 per cent of the survey respondents, the few-and-far-between kisses last no longer than five seconds.

But don’t give up hope! Rather, give your marriage the gift of exhilarating intimacy, in and out of the bedroom. Read on to learn the whys and hows of kissing your way toward a spicier relationship.

Why kiss?

To understand the power of a kiss, realize there’s more to a kiss than meets the lips. Even if it were all in the lips, author Sheril Kirshenbaum remains optimistic. In The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us, she explains that lips disproportionately dominate your neural space relative to other body parts. This means that lips are extremely sensitive, so a single sensual kiss rouses a great deal of neurotransmitter and hormone activity. For instance, a spike in dopamine increases pleasure and longing, elevated oxytocin fosters bonding and rising serotonin boosts feelings of contentment.

In turn, a study conducted by Arizona State University professor Kory Floyd shows that bodily pleasure translates into marital satisfaction. His intriguing research reveals that when couples increased their kissing during a six-week period, their cholesterol and stress-levels lowered and their relationship satisfaction rose.

As a bonus, science suggests that men transfer testosterone through their saliva! Since testosterone raises libido in men and women, swapping saliva can elevate sexual desire. Needless to say, while kissing feeds desire and can prime you and your spouse for more physical intimacy, it need not always lead to intercourse.

How not to kiss

Good kissing bonds a couple. Poor kissing threatens to erode marital intimacy. Invest a moment to complete Clarke’s amusing “Kissing Test” to reveal how frequently your kisses fall under these four subpar categories:

  1. The Pathetic Little Peck Kiss: Husband and wife bump their lips together for a millisecond, as if reluctantly or by accident.
  2. The Poofy Lip Kiss: Husband and wife stand a few feet away with two sets of poofed lips stretched out, struggling for a point of contact. Lips touch; bodies don’t.
  3. The Sound Effect Kiss: Husband and wife stand across the room from each other and one spouse purses their lips to make a kiss sound.
  4. The Dreaded Kiss on the Cheek: Cheek kissing is a common greeting in Europe – between friends. As passionate lovers, husband and wife should move beyond this impersonal salutation.

Of course, there’s nothing inherently wrong with these types of kisses. But they should be only part of a balanced diet. On their own, these lifeless kisses can result in a malnourished marriage.

Top eight kissing tips

For a more passionate, flirtatious and exciting marriage, practice these eight tips:

  1. Kiss for kissing’s sake: Kissing deserves respect and attention as an essential act of marital intimacy. Without proper prioritization, the ardent embrace and flirtatious smooch dissolve into a hand wave and a peck for a couple overwhelmed by the pressures of kids, bills and busyness. Granted, you may kiss sensually during foreplay, and that’s good. But if erotic kissing occurs only preceding intercourse, Clarke flags this as a “huge mistake and a sign of decreasing passion.” Moreover, if kissing is viewed merely as a precursor to sex, one partner may avoid it when they aren’t in the mood for more, marriage and family therapist Karen Wells cautions.
  2. Put your body into it: Is “make-out touching” a lost art in your marriage? If so, reengage your body – and your spouse’s. A “full-body, all-the-right-parts-touching, sensual hug is part of a great kiss,” Clarke writes. Try using your arms to embrace your husband or wife. Touch their face, back, shoulders and legs. Gently caress your wife’s neck. Seductively squeeze your husband’s bicep. Kissing like you’re married should mean more touching, not less!
  3. Greet with a kiss: The way you greet your spouse sets the tone for the rest of the evening. Start the night right with a 20-second kiss, which Clarke says breaks the mold of saying “How are you?” and instead says “I’m crazy about you!” Taking the time for a physical, intimate greeting also provides a buffer zone for a stressed husband and frenzied wife before one or both of you start venting about the day.
  4. Kiss and Tell: Perhaps you don’t enjoy kissing. Maybe it causes you physical or emotional discomfort. Or maybe you think your husband or wife is a bad kisser. Rather than resigning yourself to a kiss-less marriage, Wells suggests having an open discussion with your spouse, approaching the subject from a “learning” perspective to avoid blame or embarrassment. She recommends using positive phrasing such as, “I’m wondering if we could try kissing this way, as I think it would be really stirring for me.” You could also play a simple game of “kiss and tell.” Start by asking your spouse to stand still for one minute while you kiss them the way you want to be kissed. Reverse roles, then discuss your preferences.
  5. Open your eyes: Make kissing an eye-opening experience – literally! Will it be awkward at first? Yes, but that’s a good thing. If all else fails and eyes-open kissing leads to nothing more than a giggle fit with your spouse, at least you’re laughing together, Wells highlights! More seriously, however, peering deeply into each other’s eyes while you kiss forces you to confront your insecurities. Plus, eyes-open kissing keeps you in the present. To illustrate, Lenae* admitted that she used to dissociate when she kissed her husband for more than a few seconds. Her mind habitually scanned her to-do list, or even fantasized about romantic film scenes. Now that she’s physically opening her eyes to the intimacy she was foregoing, Lenae has an enlivened desire for her husband!
  6. Focus on quantity and quality: Rhett Butler, iconic romantic hero in Gone With the Wind, sweeps his lover into his arms saying, “You should be kissed, and often – and by someone who knows how.” The same goes for you and your spouse! Make it your goal to frequently shower your husband or wife with the best kisses you can. When you think one peck will do, opt for “lingering and multiple kisses,” Clarke advises. Focusing on quantity and quality maintains a steady flow of romantic feelings so there are no more dry spells in your marriage.
  7. Kiss by the Book: Read the Song of Solomon and let the Scriptures be your (kissing) guide. King Solomon, the Bible’s greatest lover, filled this book with accolades of marital love, passion, intimacy – and kissing. In fact, the second verse in the Song references smooching: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!” Later, by writing that honey and milk are under his lover’s tongue, Solomon heats things up by alluding to French kissing (4:11)! “All the kisses described in the Song,” Clarke notes, “are good, solid, put-your-heart-and-soul-into-it efforts.”
  8. Kiss anyway: Undoubtedly, there are days when you don’t feel like looking at your spouse, let alone kissing them. On the days you feel hurt, frustrated or angry, Clarke advises that you kiss anyway. “You must engage in romantic behavior first and then your feelings of passion – deeper and more intimate – will follow.” Marriage is based on loving and respecting your spouse no matter what, and the practice of passionate kissing speaks this message loud and clear.

*Name changed to protect privacy

Reference to the individuals and organizations quoted does not constitute a blanket endorsement of either the individual’s external work or their respective organizations.

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If kissing your spouse means a quick peck on the lips, you’re seriously missing out. Not only are there plenty of ways to pucker up, but the more you do it, the better for your well-being and relationship. Here are some new options below.

1. The Butterfly Kiss
Bring your face very close and then flutter your eyelashes rapidly. Try it on their cheek, chin, or lips to mix it up.

2. The Forehead Kiss
Sweetly brush your lips across your hubby’s forehead.

3. The Earlobe Kiss
Sneak in for a light nibble on your partner’s earlobe, taking care not to make any loud noises or sudden movements. Bonus points if you whisper something sexy — or super sweet.

4. The Hot and Cold Kiss
Lick your partner’s lips to make them warm and then blow on them to make them cold.

5. The Lip-Sucking Kiss
Do exactly that: Suck on your partner’s lower lip while kissing to break up your usual routine.

6. The Nibble Kiss
Slightly nibble on your partner’s lips while kissing. Take it slow and easy to determine a pleasurable, not painful, amount of pressure.

7. The Freeze Kiss
Put an ice cube into your mouth and kiss your spouse, while passing the cube to his mouth with your tongue. The icy sensation will give you both a pleasant shock.

8. The Finger Kiss
While relaxing with your spouse, take his fingers and suck on them slowly.

9. The Foot Kiss
Gently suck on your partner’s toes and then kiss his foot very lightly. If you or your spouse is self-conscious about odor, take a relaxing shower or bath together beforehand.

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Kissing in Marriage: Top 10 Kisses Every Marriage Needs

It’s our Top 10 Tuesday day, and I thought I’d run a fun post today on kissing in marriage.

Frankly, I’m afraid that kissing often becomes a lost art in marriage. Most of us kiss before we’re married, but once we’re married we often stop, because kissing is supposed to lead to something else, right? And if we’re not sure we want to go there, then we don’t want to kiss. We wouldn’t want to give him the wrong idea.

But when we stop kissing, we lose one of our greatest ways to boost our own libidos–and we lose out on a lot of intimacy and fun! So today I thought I’d share ten different kisses every marriage needs.

1. The “Hello” Kiss

He walks in the door–and you stop whatever you’re doing and make sure you get to him first–before the dog, before the kids, before anything. And you tell him, “I missed you today, and I’m glad you’re home!” Or if you’re the one who walks in the door, you seek him out first, and you plant one right on him. It’s usually light, it’s happy, and you’re smiling all the way through it.

I think this one’s my favourite–just because I look forward to whenever my husband comes home.

And what if it’s hello after a longer absence? Then all bets are off! You can end up on the floor, you can end up rolling around, you can end up all tangled. And tears are often involved.

2. The “Whooppee! I’m So Excited!” Kiss

You just got a promotion! He just got a raise. You just signed on the house! The little stick was pink. Whatever it may be–this one involves him picking you up and spinning you around, and lots of passion, and lots of laughter, all at the same time.

Because when we’re excited, we want to share it!

3. The “It’s Going to Be All Right” Kiss

Tears are falling silently. The miscarriage is over and you’re lying down in bed. You’re back from your mom’s funeral. You’re recovering from a fight with your teenage daughter, and you’re not sure if the relationship can be repaired.

And you lie down next to each other, hearts breaking, and you reach out and kiss. Sometimes it’s gentle, and sometimes it’s for dear life, but with this salty kiss you’re saying the same thing–I’m here with you. I’m not going anywhere. We’re going to get through this. And I want to share your pain.

Turn to each other when you hurt. It’s very healing.

4. The “I Love You So Much” Kiss

You’ve just prayed together and you’re overwhelmed by how amazing this man is. He’s just come back inside from throwing the ball around with your son. He stood up for you when your mom tried to manipulate you again.

And you’re so thrilled that this man is in your corner.

This kiss is heartfelt, it’s long, it’s drawn out–and you can feel it in your toes.

5. The “I’m Sorry” Kiss

One of your messed up–big time. You’ve confessed. You’ve forgiven. And now you’re rebuilding.

This one often starts out tentatively–but often ends up much more passionately. And often in bed! (Make up sex is a real thing, you know 🙂 ).

6. The “I’m Going to Ravish You Now” Kiss

Here’s where the excitement is overwhelming, and the kiss takes on a life of its own.

This one almost always leads somewhere fun–and is almost always very memorable. Don’t be afraid to drag this one out. It’s more fun that way!

7. The “Silly” Kiss

You’re teasing each other. You’re tickling each other. You’re trying to gross the kids out. You’re dancing in the kitchen and he dramatically dips you–and then doesn’t let you get up.

We all need times just to be silly in our marriages. Throw in some silly kisses, too!

8. The “I Think You’re Hot” Kiss

This isn’t the passionate one–because you don’t have time. You’re stealing a kiss, and giving him a message for what’s coming later. Here’s where you grab him, give him a long-drawn out, deep kiss that leaves him breathless–and then you smile and walk away, whispering, “later.” Because everyone needs some teasing in a marriage–as long as it’s going somewhere, of course!

9. The “You’re Just So Darn Cute” Kiss

You’re out for a walk and he’s telling a funny story. He’s imitating a weird accent and acting out a scene from work. He’s making you laugh, and he’s just so cute that you reach over and give him a little peck, laughing all the way.

Throw in some laughter into your marriage–it’s good for the soul!

10. The “Good-Bye” Kiss

Finally, it’s the most important one. Whether it’s just an affectionate peck when you say good-bye in the morning, or a tear-laced drawn out kiss when you’re parting for a while, make sure that every time you part, you part with a kiss. Make it a habit–let that always be the last thing you do, and you’ll hold on to him the whole time he’s gone.

Kissing in marriage is so important to express all kinds of different emotions. It’s our own special way of connecting. If your marriage regularly uses one or two of these–but rarely all ten, maybe it’s time to expand your repertoire! Laugh more. Be silly more. When you’re resolving conflict, end it well. Comfort him more. Be more vulnerable. Open up more.

Kissing can do all of that. So let’s rediscover the lost art of kissing–and have a wonderful time doing it!

Haven’t kissed passionately in a while? Just start with some little pecks to say good-bye and hello, and build from there. But don’t let kissing die. It’s too important–and too fun!

In my book, 31 Days to Great Sex, kissing is one of my 31 challenges! I encourage couples to share a 15-second kiss every day. It can totally transform your marriage. If your romance is stuck in the doldrums, check out 31 Days to Great Sex, and rediscover your passion for each other again.

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1. The Kay Jewelers Lie Exposer

Not every kiss begins with K — some start with tongue. Anyone leading with a wet, revolving tongue is going to maintain that method throughout the entire kissing session, treating your lips and mouth like an ice cold Popsicle on a hot summer day. Contrary to what this kisser and friendly dogs around the world believe, being licked on the mouth doesn’t feel pleasant at all.

2. The Inaccurate One

It doesn’t require Katniss-Everdeen-esque precision to successfully land your lips on the lips of the person you’re trying to kiss. Really, anyone with even average aim should be in good shape. However, this person manages to wind up kissing somewhere in the vicinity of your chin or nostrils, leaving you feeling awkwardly violated.

3. The Morning Breather

It doesn’t matter what time of day it is, you can kiss this person at 4:53 PM, and they’ve still got morning breath? How? How do you do that? It’s almost as if they possess a superpower that nobody wants; the ability to maintain stank, 6 AM breath 24-7.

4. The Mutombo

You initiate the kiss by coming in and leaning 90% just like Hitch said to, but your lips are greeted, or should I say rejected, by a palm. Blocked. Oh, we didn’t just have a moment? Apparently I miscalculated the amount of sexual tension and mistook your friendliness for interest in mouth-to-mouth contact.

5. The Balm-Less Wonder

Cold, chapped lips have to be one of the most unpleasant surfaces ever. It’s unclear how a kiss is even enjoyable for that person who’s donning the dry, crusty pair because a badly damaged smoochers can be pretty painful. It’s kind of inexcusable these days, considering lip balms are widely available for a buck or two at every grocery, drug and convenience store.

6. The Chomper

Is the zombie apocalypse commencing on your face right now? Don’t get me wrong, if one applies the right amount of pressure, a little biting can feel pleasant. Matter of fact, it’s not a complex, precise craft to master. Nibbling is nice, just refrain from chomping on lips and necks like bubble gum.

7. The Skip To The Ending

It’s evident that this person doesn’t want to beat around the bush… Actually beating around the bush might be exactly what they’re trying to do. No playing small ball here; there’ll no delaying of the process. This is a swing for the fence that, in addition to aggressive, wet kissing, features confident hands exploring your body, and a middle school-esque amount of dry humping. Of course, depending on the person and your mood this can be considered a good thing.

8. Eyes WIDE Open

A lot of people like to sneak a peek during a good make out session, but damn, nobody’s eyelids are sexy enough to stare at for the duration of the kiss.

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3 Places On My Wife I Commit to Kiss Everyday and Why

The first kiss recorded in the Bible is found in Genesis 27:26-27. When Jacob kissed his son Isaac. This kiss was a sign of respect, honor, and a passing of blessing.

A kiss at its core is a sign of love and respect between two people.

It has now in our culture also become a way to connect non verbally with a person you are romantically involved with, a method of foreplay to prepare one another for sexual intimacy, and a sign of respect to a close one.

In marriage kissing is very vital part of your daily interaction. In my marriage it is already a custom when one person leaves the home we kiss each other, before we lay our heads to sleep we kiss each other, and at a time of celebration we kiss each other.

Each day I have committed to myself and my wife to kiss her in three places that hold a powerful symbol to reiterate 3 core values we vowed to when we got married.

  1. Her Forehead

In the morning before I leave for work, I kiss my wife on her forehead. The reason I kiss her on her forehead is to recommit my vow to honor and protect her thoughts, passions, fears, and her authority as my wife.

The forehead kiss is a sign of honor and respect that communicates you can trust me no matter what. When you kiss a woman at the top of her head you let her know that she can leave her entire life in your care. You let her know that she is safe with you.

2. Her cheek.

A kiss on the cheek is a kiss of friendship. Before you kiss a woman on her lips it is appropriate to kiss a woman on her cheeks during your dating season.

Each day I kiss my wife on her cheek as a commitment to be her best friend through it all. At the foundation of every great marriage is a solid friendship.

Two people who have strive to understand one another through communicating daily, putting the other before themselves through serving, conflict resolution, and respecting each other.

The kiss on the cheek will forever be the kiss that melts a woman’s heart.

  1. Her Lips

Kissing on the lips dates back to Biblical days which we can see in Song of Solomon 1:2, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.

In the Middle Ages in Europe kissing the on the lips was a sign of equal rank. Which is powerful in marriage because it communicates we are in this together.

At its core in marriage a kiss on the lips is a sign of romantic love.

I commit to kiss my wife daily on her lips to communicate the vow to romantically love her til death do us part, for better or for worse. The kiss on the lips is a commitment to forever be the romancer of her heart. A kiss on the lips communicates that only you have my affection, desires, and heart.

The commitment to kiss your spouse everyday can build a bridge of trust and communicate your love in another way than just saying it.


How to kiss in 23 different ways

‘’A kiss is a lovely trick to stop speech when words become superfluous’’. It is a gesture that communicates your emotions without having to say them! Kissing is not just a concept but an art and can be as creative as you want it to be!
Be it a French kiss or an American Kiss (yes, you read it right), everyone wants to master the art of kissing. Trust us, it’s not easy to learn the tricks of a perfect kiss, but like all other skills, kissing too needs a bit of preparation and practice. No wonder, a kiss may break or make a relationship and it’s very important that you do it right.

Here’s your guide on how to kiss to master this simple yet complicate skill :
One of the most passionate ways to kiss, a French kiss tops the list of kisses! An intimate and erotic move, it is surely to set your partner’s mood for some romance. Start by tilting in and locking your partner’s lips with yours. Remember to go with the flow, rushing through this divine moment can ruin the feel of it. Slowly extend your tongue and reach out for your partner’s tongue. Just feel the moment and you’d nail your ‘perfect kiss’!
Twee and romantic, single lip kisses are the best way to tell your partner ‘I love you’. Start by leaning closer and reaching out for one of their lips. Start sucking the lip gently in a romantic manner. DON’T BITE. Biting during a single lip kiss to show your wild side is a big NO! Just sandwich one of their lips between yours and keep sucking to send a strong romantic message!
Have you ever seen how a lizard sticks out its tongue? This is a similar type of kiss wherein both the partners stick out their tongues and kiss each other without the use of their lips. For some, it might be a little dirty but for those who share high level of intimacy, it can prove to be really amorous!
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An American kiss, just like a French kiss, involves deep kissing but without the use of tongue. Hold your lady close by her waist and pin her closer to your body kissing her hard. Bend her a little giving support to her with your hand on her back and get lost in the romantic moment! It is sure to give both of you an erotic rush.
Want to try an interesting way to kiss your partner? Try this ice-kiss that is sure to send chills down your and your partner’s spine! Just hold a cube of ice between your lips and start kissing your partner. Kiss them passionately till the ice melts completely in your mouth. Try this variation of kissing that would give your partner goose bumps.
Wish to arouse your man with just a kiss? Nibble kisses are cute and at the same time very sensual. Just grab your partner’s lower lip and bite it gently. Do not be too harsh as it would cause pain and ruin your intimate moment. It makes your make-out session a lot more thrilling and would set the base for a lot extra!
As playful and flirty as it can get, a lip trace kiss is the sweetest of all! Trace your partner’s lips with your tongue gently kissing them in between. It would definitely add spice to your ‘moment’ and leave your partner craving for a lot more.
All you need to do is sit close to your partner, and let your eye lashes touch theirs. And as you kiss, flutter your lashes together like butterfly wings. If you want to do a solo kiss, blink your eye lashes against their cheek and see them blushing. It’s cute, fun and something different to try out.
It’s going to turn out quite playful. Put a generous amount of a flavoured lip gloss, and wildly kiss your partner until their lips are coated with it too. Now, make it more interesting by asking them to guess the flavour. You can also opt for tinted lip gloss but make sure your partner is comfortable with the act.
Inspired from the movie, this kiss is bound to turn on your partner. To do it, the face of the partner needs to be upside down, so that your upper lip kisses their lower lip, and vice versa. This kissing style is unique, easy to execute and of course, sensual.
Who says a kiss has to be done just on lips! All you need to do is grab your partner’s ear between your lips and put your tongue to work. Use a gentle sucking motion to seduce them further and don’t forget to tug the earlobe downwards, gently. Since this particular region has nerve endings, your partner is going to love it.
Hickey might not qualify as a kiss, but what’s wrong in going a bit bold and experimenting. Hickey (also called love bite) is a red mark that is left on the skin when you partner sucks the area hard enough. It is advisable to take your partner’s permission for doing it as some might find it pleasurable, and others painful. Also, the place where you do it matters as well as your partner might get embarrassed later if it is visible.
This kissing style is more on formal side and generally done to greet your near and dear ones. All it requires is resting your cheek against the other person’s cheek and make a kissing sound, that’s it.
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If your partner and you have a sweet tooth, then sugar kiss is one of the perfect options for you. Look for food items that you both love to binge on, like ice cream, marshmallow fluff, chocolate, etc, and kiss while they melt in your mouth. Who says snacking can’t be romantic!
If your partner and you know how to swim and stay underwater for a few seconds, then this one is going to be your one of best sexual adventures. Here, partners hold their breath and kiss underwater. Or, either one of the partner holds his/her breath underwater and the other one gives them air.
This one is pretty interesting and might require a few sessions to master it. Here, one of the partner takes a sip of their favourite drink (you can try alcohol too!), and try to pour this drink into your partner’s mouth while kissing. Make sure you take a small sip initially, and be prepared if the drink spills. Guess, there’s another way of getting drunk with your partner.
This one is inspired from the way people in Eskimo culture do it. All you need to do is to rub your nose back and forth against your partner’s nose. You can add your own touch by kissing in between. It would be funny but sensual.
As the name suggests, the idea is to suck the air from your partner’s mouth. It is an open-mouthed kiss where both the partners kiss while sucking the air from each other’s mouth and thereby creating vacuum. It sounds a bit weird but is surely worth a try.
Here how you can relive your childhood memories in the most sensual way possible. Both of the partners pop in each other favourite candies, and exchange them while French kissing. Like, one partner might opt for mint flavour, and the other for orange. We wonder what your mouth would taste by the end of the act.
This one is quite simple yet erotic. Gently hold your partners chin with your middle finger, index finger and thumb, and tilt it towards the right direction. Enjoy the kissing while holding it.
Channelise your inner vampire and show your partner your wild side. Just like vampires do it, plant a deep kiss on their neck while sucking the area, and biting it gently. You can go little raunchy and give a love bite as well. Since it might leave the red mark, make sure you ask your partner before doing it. Also, make sure it is painful in a pleasurable way. Hope the message is clear.
This one is again another simple kissing style that can drive your partner crazy. To give a jawline kiss to your partner, start kissing them passionately on the bottom of their jaw—the area where their neck meets their face. If they like it, take it to next level by kissing their earlobes and forehead.
This style might not interest everyone, so be sure about your partner’s preferences before trying it out. A wet kiss is an open-mouthed kiss, and can be done with or without using your tongue. A little bit of wetness while kissing can be a turn on, but doing it excessively can be a messy affair. To spice up it even more, introduce a few more kissing styles while doing it. Spend a few seconds on close-mouth, single-lip kisses along with little bit of biting to keep things steamier.
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Looking for fun ways to kiss? The old saying says that if kissing isn’t fun, you aren’t doing it right. Whether you are learning to kiss for the first time, wanting to explore your options in kissing with your boyfriend or girlfriend or just want to have some fun, let’s look at all the ways you can enjoy kissing.

12 Fun Ways to Kiss

While 12 fun ways to kiss is just an arbitrary number, this list explores 12 great ways to charge up your kisses and to create a fun experience for both of you. If you want to make a game out of these different ways to kiss, print out the list and cut up each section so that you have one kiss per slice of paper. Now fold them up and drop them in a hat. You can each pull out one and try the kiss out. It’s a fun game and a fun way to share affection and romance.

The Pop Rock Kiss

This kiss challenges you to use a pop rock, you know the candy that explodes with flavor and sizzle in your mouth and share it as you kiss. The exploding tingles of sensation will increase the shivers you experience and will more than likely cause you to laugh while you kiss. Avoid choking on the candy and enjoy the ride.

Kiss Her Like Spiderman

Recreate that moment in the moving by hanging upside down and kissing from that angle. Don’t worry, you won’t have to hang off a building. Simply lie down on a sofa, bed, or chair with your head hanging off the end. Your partner sits on the floor facing you, and then you kiss. This intimacy is very different and odd because even if you open your eyes, you cannot see each other. It’s a kiss that lets you just explore the way the other tastes.

Chocolate Kisses

Choose your favorite kind of chocolate: dark, milk, or white and place a small Hershey’s kiss on your tongue. Begin kissing slowly, moving your tongue over the chocolate in your partner’s mouth. The kiss is creamy, full of flavor, and sweet.

Twist Kiss

Choose a candy with a lot of spicy or cool flavor, such as a cinnamon or a peppermint. Begin kissing and savor the wild flavor. The cold feeling will fill your mouth with icy tingles while the cinnamon will create a warm burn. Both are erotic when you are sharing a kiss.

Kiss the Air

Allow your lips to hover just out of reach of your partner’s. Let your breath mingle together without actually allowing your lips to physically touch. This is a kiss of profound intimacy and closeness.

Licking Kiss

Choose a flavored lip-gloss that you both enjoy and put it on your lips. One partner gently samples the other partner’s lips, gently licking away the edible flavor. When done, the other partner reciprocates. It’s important to be passive when you are the one being licked to enjoy the sensation of tasting and touching.

Kissing the Distance

When you kiss, typically you are close to each other, embracing and touching. Take your time to kiss without allowing any other part of your bodies to touch. Extend your arms away from each other and feel the heat of your partner’s body kissing the distance between you when only your lips and tongues are touching.

Kissing in the Rain

Wait for the next rainstorm to hit and if it’s safe (i.e. no lightening striking), run outside and kiss with the warm rain pouring over you.

Kiss in the Water

This is a deeper kiss than when you’re in the rain. Wait for the next time you can go to the ocean or the swimming pool and kiss each other while underwater. Being submerged acts as a hint of sensory deprivation, which increases the sensuality of the connection. Just remember to come up for air.

Punctuate Your Kisses

Have a conversation where you must kiss every time you use the articles “the,” “a,” or “an.” They are used a great deal and these types of kisses can populate your conversation with passion and fun. It’s a guaranteed giggle within just a few moments.

Cozy Kiss

On a cold day or evening, curl up under a blanket and get comfortable. Keep each other warm by kissing each other slowly. Kissing is a great way to stay nice and toasty when it’s too cold to spend time outside.

Kiss the Chef

Cook a meal together that you both love. Take turns feeding each other the ingredients using just your mouths and seal each new flavor with a kiss.

Finding Great Ways to Kiss

Kissing should always be fun, keep the laughter, romance and passion in your relationships by discovering new and fun ways to kiss every day.

As cliché as it sounds, a kiss can feel like a Michael Bay-level explosion, or it can make you feel absolutely zilch, zero, nothing. There’s more nuance to a simple kiss than just an equation of lips and tongues, and there are easy ways to set the pace even if you’re not exactly the most experienced kisser. Below, a handy guide on how to take the reigns on a make-out session like you’re a seasoned pro.

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1. Freshen Up

It goes without saying that when you’re inches from someone’s face, no one wants to inhale whiffs of stale coffee or a mouthful of garlic and onion. A little self-awareness goes a long way—avoid overly pungent foods or pack a teeny pack of mints, just in case.

2. Time the Moment Right

Follow the other person’s body language cues to know when it’s the right time to initiate a kiss. Consent is key, so it never hurts to ask before leaning in for a smooch if you’re not sure. Just don’t insist on forcing a kiss if it doesn’t feel right, or leave the other person waiting so long that they start questioning whether you’re interested in them.

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3. Work Your Eyes

When you’re leaning in for a kiss, you can’t use your mouth to speak, so why not say it through eye contact? When you’re actually mid-kiss, though, dial it back a bit since it can be unnerving to find someone straight-up staring at you in close range (see: Bruno Mars’ “Grenade”). Temporary blindness during a kiss can intensify the way it feels—the sound of another person’s breathing or the gentle touch of their hand.

4. Stay in the Moment

You’re guaranteed to feel more connected to the other person if you stop feeling anxious about your kissing skills or something you said 10 minutes earlier by tuning out any extra mental chatter and giving into the moment.

5. Take Your Time

Kissing is a team effort. Don’t squelch someone’s spirit by going on the offensive (AKA getting too heavy-handed with tongue) or trying too hard to control the situation or lead the way.

6. Pack Some Balm

No, no one expects your lips to be “kissably soft” all the time. But it does help to pack some lip balm in your bag if your lips are a dry, flaky mess in winter.

7. Mind Your Tongue

Tongue use can be great…in moderation. Remember, it’s a kiss, not a facial wash. No one likes to be doused in saliva, or have their entire mouth filled by someone’s tongue. Try starting out slow and small with no tongue and cranking up the intensity as a kiss gets more passionate.

8. Pay Attention to Surroundings

Whether it’s candlelight, a tent under the stars, in the ocean, or in a sudden rain storm, special new surroundings make a kiss interesting. Because your eyes are closed most of the time during a kiss, you’ll hear and even feel the things that are happening around you more clearly.

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9. Be Spontaneous

Kissing is all about the about the back-and-forth exchange, so feel free to loosen up and experiment with different styles of kissing to keep things interesting. Try gently—key word, gently—tugging on his lower lip with your teeth during a kiss. Do the upside down Spiderman! Try using more tongue or transitioning sides during a kiss or gentle biting, so long as both of you are into it.

10. Follow Each Other’s Lead

Good kissers will mirror each other’s movements, so that they’re both on the same page. Take note of what your partner’s doing and imitate it. Or, take the lead if you want to try something different. Feel out each other’s impulses and kissing styles, and go from there.

11. Make it a Full Body Experience

A kiss will feel even deeper if you’re holding the other person close during a kiss or touching their neck or back.

12. Learn Your Erogenous Zones

On that note, don’t forget the grazing potential of the ear lobes, nose, collarbone, and the neck—just think of all those nerve endings. Hickeys aren’t exactly everyone’s cup of tea, so don’t bite down or latch on unless your partner indicates that they’re into it.

13. Give Each Other Positive Feedback

To kill the anticipation and nerve-wracking vibes of a kiss, give the other person positive feedback so that your partner feels good after a kiss. If they’re not the best kisser in the world, gently guide them in another direction by slowing down, pulling back, and demonstrating a different technique.

Kissing is something we often take for granted, at least as adults. After you’ve moved past the early teen years where it was a huge deal, it almost seems like the least of your dating life concerns. But let’s be real: you can always improve upon the art of lip-locking. We asked Andréa Demirjian, author of KISSING – Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About One of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures, about what everyone needs to know about smashing your lips together.

The First Kiss Doesn’t Need to Be Fancy

While your first instinct might be to pull out all the stops and impress your partner with some cherry-stem-knotting kisses, remember that the first kiss is actually more about what you don’t show them. You want to draw them in enough so that they come back for more. “The first kiss is really key as it’s pretty much signals ‘green’ or ‘red’ for pursuing romance,” says Demirjian. “While you may not be judged so much on fancy technique — sometimes the kiss is brief — you do want that first to be pleasant enough to guarantee another.”

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Demirjian suggests sticking to healthy oral hygiene routines: “Flossing and brushing keeps bacteria at bay, drinking plenty of water helps with general mouth health, and moisturizing your lips ensures they’re not chapped and rough. “Don’t forget,” she adds: “kissing is so much about the sensory experience — taste, smell, touch — so make sure you don’t get dinged on a technicality like dodgy breath or snaggy lips.”

Remember that kissing is also important for your pleasure. “The lips are incredibly arousing as they house a network of infinite nerve endings,” Demirjian explains. “The second they feel a sensation, a zaa-zaa-zoo zings straight to the brain on a fiber optic super highway at lighting fast speed that tells our ‘dirty dancing’ chemicals and hormones to hustle that blood rush to all our sexy regions.”

While Kissing Preferences Are Different for Everyone, There Are Some General “Dos”

Paying attention to body language is obviously important. Eye contact, flirting, and physical contact are all signs someone is interested. But when it comes to deciphering how you should kiss, Demirjian says it’s best to read the energy — not just of who you’re about to kiss, but also of the environment.

“Are you having quiet chat and chill in corner restaurant booth? Or dancing out-loud at an epic party? Depending on the volume, that first move could be soft and sweet where you might just gently take their chin in your hand, lean in and caress their lips,” she says. “Or it can be totally robust and enthusiastic, where you pull someone in at the waist and give a very full, juicy, playful kiss. Read the mood of your intended and the surroundings, and trust your instincts.”

And Some Very Important “Don’ts”

Again, there are so many factors and personal preferences involved, it’s impossible to offer a definitive checklist on what people like and don’t like. But there are three things Demirjian recommends avoiding, at least when you first lean in:

1. Don’t go in too fast or forcefully. “Kissing should be enjoyed and savored, says Demirjian. “And those first moments should be more of a hint of what’s to come.”

2. Don’t lead with tongue. “Tongue should be introduced slowly,” Demirjian recommends. When you do add in that tongue, remember to keep it supple and relaxed. “Too often people use their tongue either like a hockey stick (stiff and hard) or a dog (sloppy and wet). Exercise a little control, and be mindful that the tongue is a very strong muscle not to be bandied about.”

3. Don’t think of kissing only as a means to sex. “A long, languorous smooching session can do your body good. It lowers blood pressure, boosts happy feel-good chemicals, relieves stress and aches, and burns calories. Enjoy the intimacy, pleasure and fun of it.”

Have Fun Experimenting With Rhythm

Kissing isn’t dancing. While you might like being the aggressor or having someone take charge, you don’t need to have anyone lead. “With some couples, there is a driver and a passenger that rides along. Then there are couples who take turns driving,” says Demirjian. “If both are enthusiastic, they could trade off …but it can also be playful to wrestle for alpha position.”

Spread the Love

While making out is great, and there are some other very obvious things you can do with your lips, there are plenty of places to kiss that aren’t necessarily intuitive. There’s no reason to keep your kisses to just the lips. “Other erogenous zones typically include the neck and ears,” Demirjian explains.

Plus, a person will likely have their own special hot spots ripe for the kissing. “For some, it can be a nibble on the hip bone. For others, some flicks and licks in that space between the belly button and bathing suit/bikini line. You just may have to spend time exploring to find them.”

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7 Ways To Improve Your Kissing Game, Because There Are Probably Some Tips You Haven’t Heard Of yet

Kissin’ ain’t easy. Well, actually, the act of kissing may be easy. But that doesn’t mean we are all good at it. You have to learn how to be a good kisser. And it takes practice to become a great kisser. Practice doesn’t always make perfect, but it makes for a much better kisser, that’s for sure. It’s not easy to admit that maybe you need a little help. Heck, some of us don’t even know we’re lacking in the kissing department. I mean, everyone has had a horrible kiss in their lives. And if they haven’t, they truly haven’t lived (or kissed that many people). The sad part is, that horrible kisser probably has zero clue that he or she isn’t great. You don’t want to go throughout your whole life being that guy or girl. You don’t want to live a full life and kiss like a kid in middle-school. So, if you’re kisses resemble that Spiderman kiss, then I’d say you’re a-okay! But, if you feel as if you could learn a few new tricks, read ahead.

Here are some ways to improve upon your kissing game, because everyone deserves to love getting kissed as much as they love kissing someone — plus, it never hurts to have a couple extra tricks up your sleeve to surprise your partner.

1. Remember to change it up

Change is good, especially when it comes to kissing. You don’t want to engage in the same old boring kiss, over and over. Spice up your kiss. Start off slow with a little bit of tongue and then work your way into a more aggressive kiss. Give little kisses here and there and then sometimes surprise your partner by using a different kissing style. Change up the speed and the motion, and you’ll have one happy kissing customer.

2. Your breath should be on point

There’s nothing more unsexy than bad breath. Your kiss could be amazing, but if all your kissing partner smells is pure garlic, it won’t be pretty. You don’t want your kiss to be overshadowed by bad breath. Make sure you pop those mints beforehand. Or carry a travel size toothbrush with you as a just in case.

3. Make sure you lips are kissable

Think of your lips as the foundation to a good kiss. You need to build a good and steady foundation. That means cracked lips are a no-no. Having cracked or chapped lips is like having a hole in your foundation. Your lips should look appealing — not like a piece of sandpaper. Furthermore, be aware of how much lipstick/lipgloss you’ve got on. Listen, I love wearing lipstick, but I also know it’s not the best in terms of kissing. It doesn’t taste all that great and it also leaves kisses a little messy. But, to each his own!

4. Be in tune with your kissing partner

To be a fantastic kisser, you’ve got to be in tune with the person you are kissing. Kissing isn’t a one-way street. You’ve got two people involved. If you are going to be kissing someone for the first time, you might not want to go all go crazy with the tongue. If your partner is speeding up the kiss, then you’ll want to do the same. It’s like a dance, so make sure you’ve got your dancing shoes on.

5. Initiate

I know it’s not easy, but sometimes you should initiate a kiss. It can be scary to be that vulnerable, but it’s also super sexy to be aggressive. If your partner is always initiating, try and put yourself out there more and get in the driver’s seat.

6. Use your hands

When kissing, it’s always good to remember to use your hands. Trust me, they come in handy. You can take a kiss from good to amazing by simply touching your kissing partner’s face. Gently touch his or her neck while kissing and possibly some other body parts and you’ve just stepped up your kissing game.

7. Location, location, location

The lips are an important part of kissing. But, don’t forget the lip’s neighbors — the neck, the cheek and the ears. If you want to be a pro-kisser, you’re going to need to hit all the bases. Pay attention to the other body parts while kissing, and your kiss will be a home run.

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One of the most important factors of showing love and affection towards your partner is through kissing. According to research, the effects of a great kiss can increase connection while boosting desire between you and your partner. Although kissing should come naturally, there are various additional techniques to try out next time you are in a passionate embrace with your partner. Here are 4 tips that are sure to increase intimacy while improving your kissing routine.

Master the art of eye contact

We all know how romantic and sexy it can be to maintain eye contact with our partner during sex, so the same result can be achieved during a passionate kiss too. Many people find prolonged eye contact embarrassing or intimidating; however, once you have gotten over the initial fear, the benefits can far outweigh the worry. This technique will only work if both partners are on board, so next time you are kissing your partner, try whispering ‘I want to look into your eyes’. The mutual gaze will not only heighten the intensity of your kiss; it will help reduce any shyness that you two might experience if it’s your first time.

Explore other areas

To master the art of kissing, one must embrace different techniques. If you are used to kissing your partner on the lips alone, leave soft kisses on your partner’s various erogenous points, before slowly working your way back to their lips. Places such as the nape of the neck, ears, and breasts can increase the level of intimacy between you and your partner. Once you are embraced in a kiss, gently kiss your partner on the lips as you slowly start to incorporate these moves. Don’t do this every time you kiss, or your partner will come to expect it. Instead, save it for special times and leave your partner wanting more as it will increase their desire and heighten your bond.

Use your hands too

An amazing kiss is way more than what just happens at the lips. Your body language, and what you do with the rest of your body is also vitally important. As you kiss your partner, use your hands to explore their face, their hair and their shoulders, making sure everything you do is subtle and gentle. Try varying the speed and intensity of your motions ensuring that your partner is comfortable as your kisses intensify. Wherever part of the body you decide to focus on, pay attention to your partner’s response to confirm they are enjoying themselves.

Add some flavor

We all know about the importance of preparation when it comes to kissing. Mouthwash, chewing gum and dental floss are all hygienic options to make sure the act is enjoyable for your partner; however, there are also other options you could incorporate to flavor things up a little. Experiment with a citrus flavor such as orange or maybe indulge your sweet tooth with chocolate. Whatever you and your partner decide, adding a new element to your kissing routine can bring a new wave of adventurous pleasure.

Try taking a fresh strawberry in your mouth and passing it over to your partner during your kiss, or a swirl of melted dark chocolate on your tongue to add a rich intensity to your embrace. Experiment with temperatures too for different results – a cold scoop of sorbet, or a warm mouthful of milky cocoa could all be enjoyable, providing you and your partner share the same taste! your partner share the same taste!